FOR two decades, Jennifer Aniston has been the subject of frenzied and almost constant speculation about when she would become a mum. Most frustratingly for her, it was always a question of when and not if.
After all, how could a beautiful rich woman with an equally beautiful and rich man (whether it be Brad Pitt, John Mayer or Justin Theroux) possibly not want to have beautiful babies together?
In recent years, as she hinted she might just never be a mum, the Friends legend has been met with quizzical responses to her very personal decision not to procreate.
The situation is the same for Kylie Minogue who, through circumstances which included struggles with health and heartbreak, turned 50 this year without becoming a mama.
Both women, who have instead focused on incredibly successful careers, have had to justify their decision without wanting to shut the door entirely, given they could be embarking on new relationships, or reveal too many painful details of health battles.
This week, Jen had enough, letting rip in her most forthright interview ever to InStyle magazine.
Slamming the assumptions made about her for staying childless as “crazy”, the actress raged: “There is a pressure on women to be mothers, and if they are not, then they are deemed damaged goods.
“Maybe my purpose on this planet isn’t to pro-create. Maybe I have other things I’m supposed to do?” Amen to that.
Famous or not, no one’s public worth should be determined by whether or not they are a parent.
There is a whole new generation of 30-something women, born in the relatively enlightened Eighties, who have been told their entire lives that they can do whatever they want, including focusing on their career in exactly the same way men have been encouraged to.
As a consequence, many are extremely successful professionally but not always settled down with a husband and kids by the socially accepted ceiling of around 35 years old.
I know from my many friends in this position just how cruel the judgment from society can be. It’s ridiculously contradictory and unfair.
After all, as gay men and lesbian women prove, there are so many different ways to start loving families these days.
Jen’s groundbreaking interview must start a sea change in how we talk about any individual’s choice not to start a family of their own.
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As she points out, the “reckless” misconception is often, “Jen refuses to have a baby because she’s selfish and committed to her career”.
Actually, who knows what she’s been through “medically or emotionally” potentially trying to start a family?
But if a supremely talented person such as Jen has decided kids simply aren’t for her and that she would rather focus on her career, then, newsflash, that’s completely acceptable as well.
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