You’re using Tinder wrong – experts reveal the WORST ways to start a chat and why ‘Hi’ is a turn-off
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FIRST impressions are everything and never has it been truer than in dating.
How do you let someone know you're interested without appearing too keen, too cheesy or just a bit boring?
It's a tough balance to strike but dating experts have shared with The Sun how you should and should not start your dating chat, whether it's on Tinder or anywhere else.
Don't start with 'Hi'
'Hi' is just too generic, as ’s dating expert Hayley Quinn explains.
"Remember if several people have sent the same message as you, you will most likely get buried in their inbox and not receive a reply," she said.
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Tina Wilson, founder of dating app , says 'Hey' is just as bad.
"This is dubbed ‘the hey-ter’ and our Wingman statistics show online daters tend to ignore someone who tries to start a conversation with this simple but over used word," she explained.
Comment on something in a person's profile
Mentioning something unique from the person's profile is a good way to start a chat.
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"This shows you’ve paid attention and are willing to put yourself out there which is an attractive personality trait to anyone looking to find a commitment, and, love," Hayley added.
Be careful not to over compliment
Going in too fast and heavy with the compliments doesn't give off the best impression either.
"If you over compliment without building a connection with someone first, they may feel like your compliments are insincere,"; Hayley explains.
"Instead of complimenting someone on their looks, the way to present yourself as a real keeper is to listen to someone’s responses and pay a compliment about their personality."
No cheesy chat up lines
Just no.
According to language experts from , the worst to come out of the UK include:
- I ought to complain to Spotify for you not being named this week’s hottest single.
- I’d like to take you to the movies, but they don’t let you bring in your own snacks.
- Do you know what my shirt is made of? Relationship material.
Don't make inappropriate comments
"Don't be a creep," clinical sexologist explains.
"Do not start a conversation by making inappropriate comments about the persons body or physical features.
"It's fine to compliment their eyes, hair or smile."
And don't lie
Lying is never good - and pretending to be something you're not isn't a great start either.
"Never start a conversation by lying," Katie adds.
"Don't say you're into something if you're not.
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";Be open, honest and your true authentic self.
"People aren't stupid and will work out that you're lying eventually."
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