Dr Pam Spurr’s six tips to spark a quickie, including playing FOOTSIE under the table at meal times
Half of women only have sex once a month due to time constraints, says our sexpert
Our sex and relationship columnist Dr Pam Spurr regularly brings you must-know info for the bedroom and beyond. Follow Dr Pam on Twitter
Are you hunting for your sex life the way you hunt for the car keys... hmm, not here! Grrr, not there!
You’re not alone as one survey found 50% of women say they have sex once a month - or less!
And 10% only have sex once a year.
Another survey found 8% of women say sex is out of the question.
It seems a lustful lark is as likely as winning the lottery.
Well, maybe the odds of a frisky fumble aren't actually 14 million to one.
But you get the picture. If you two can't even snatch a sexy snog it's time for QSR - quickie sex rescue.
Here are six QSR tips:
QSR Tip No. 1
Light up the spark of spontaneity. When 24/7 responsibilities have taken over your life, spontaneity disappears.
Agree you’ll go with a whim from time to time. Couples that talk about and plan spontaneity (seems unspontaneous to plan it!) actually run with opportunities.
So the kids are over at the neighbour’s playing? Dive between the sheets for some grown-up sex play.
QSR Tip No. 2
Preparation is all. Keep sex-play items to hand in a cupboard or locked in your own ‘pleasure-chest’.
If you know luscious lubricant’s within reach, your favourite sex toy’s ready to roar into action, and you have a cheeky pair of handcuffs tucked away, it makes sex so much easier.
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QSR Tip No. 3
Get creative with getting lustful. Family might be visiting or friends are over for a catch-up, but they won’t know you’re playing some footsie under the table.
Or ‘handsie’ come to think of it! A bit of cheeky sub-tabletop stroking will put you both in the mood for lust later on. When on your own again, you’ll be racing to the bedroom.
QSR Tip No. 4
Know each other’s lust-buttons. If time short be totally honest about what really makes you hot.
Maybe she finds it irresistible if he randomly slips his hand down her panties. She loves the naughtiness that he can’t resist touching her.
Maybe he loves it when she bends over to pick up something off the floor – oops, he can see her knickers.
Or one of you would get off if the other said unprintable things down the phone. But you’ve always been shy about revealing this.
Share these little ‘teases’ that set your pulse racing. It’ll be quicker to turn each other on when you have limited time.
QSR Tip No. 5
Set up some simmering surprises. Looks like a window of opportunity on the horizon? Plan fun and easy sex-play like arranging your favourite finger foods on a plate to hand-feed each other.
Including spooning creamy dessert into each other’s mouths. Ask her to lie back as you spoon a little onto her breasts to slowly nibble off.
Or light candles in the bathroom, have some yummy smelling shower gel to hand, and lather-up together.
QSR Tip No. 6
Massage the mood between you. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again you need to think in terms of ‘beforeplay’. The term I coined over a decade ago.
To even get to a place where foreplay’s on the cards, you must get the vibe right beforehand. Try hard to stop snapping at each other. Make a point of complimenting each other. Set a flirty tone in your messaging. Kiss each other good morning and good night.
When you create a loving mood between you, you’ll be more ready to take chances for more when they arise.
Our sex and relationship columnist Dr Pam Spurr regularly brings you must-know info for the bedroom and beyond. Follow Dr Pam on Twitter @drpamspurr
You can call Dr Pam about any sex or relationship dilemma on Saturday nights on Talk Radio 9PM till midnight. Call 0344-499- 1000 to speak to her.
