Is it forever for Stephanie Davies and Jeremy McConnell? Dr Pam Spurr reads their body language to see if love will go the distance now Caben-Albi is born
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When Stephanie Davis and Jeremy McConnell got together in Celebrity Big Brother just over a year ago I wrote in my Sun online column it wouldn’t last long at all. I listed my reasons and I hate to say it but I was right.
Their breakup was a calamity with both sides accusing the other of nasty things. As is the way, their ultimate insult was to stop following each other on social media.
“Take that,” they both hissed at their mobiles or tablets as they pressed the unfollow button.
The rest is history, Stephanie played out her pregnancy like a soap opera. While Jeremy behaved like a toddler throwing his toys out of the pram (his son will soon be doing that, but that’s a toddler for you).
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He posted messages about paternity, alleged Stephanie must’ve had sex with others, and bitterly criticised her mother-to-be behaviour.
So what now?
Paternity tests reveal Jeremy is Caben Albi-George’s (don’t try saying that after a few bevies) father and they’ve suddenly put on a 'united front'.
If this is a ploy to continue playing out their lives across the media, it’s wrong. This could potentially damage a baby to be used like this. A baby needs two parents committed to its well-being. Not committed to raking in cash from media deals!
Please excuse my inner-cynic emerging at this point. But their history shows every step of the way both have courted the press.
Why would this be damaging?
It’s fine if two adults want to reveal every dirty detail of their rollercoaster-relationship - the screaming, swearing, and drunken tears streaming down their faces. A child, though, doesn’t have any say.
He may grow up wishing he had some privacy, then discover every tear he cried on his mum’s or dad’s knee was documented in the press.
Thankfully parenthood often forces people to grow up quickly. And with both proving in the past how highly impulsive and emotional they are, let’s hope this is the case.
If I was advising them -
They urgently need private time now. Without the pressure of posing for paparazzi so they can work out how they parent their precious little boy. But already they don’t seem to be doing this.
Stephanie and Jeremy must also draw a line on the past. At this point they must avoid the blame-game of who did what. Only a clean slate will work now.
I fear their rocky road may continue. Because whether aiming to be friendly co-parents - or back to a full-on relationship - they must not repeat past mistakes.
Their body language highlights some revealing things:
1. The very positive sign from this photo is Stephanie and Jeremy are in synchrony with their body language and smiles. Synchrony of body language can also signal synchrony in how they’re feeling.
2. Again we see great synchrony with them both reaching into the pram together, both fussing over their son.
3. As with many new dads, Jeremy looks awkward trying to hand Caben Albi to Stephanie. But what’s important is both are focused on their son. Because if Stephanie had any real concerns about his awkwardness she wouldn’t have looked so relaxed.
4. If you watch the entire video you see how mindful Stephanie is about Jeremy. She looks at him a number of times – sometimes when he’s looking at the baby. She knows she's besotted with her boy, but subconsciously she assesses his reactions. She’s watching his mate- and father-suitability behaviour.
5. When they reunited there was still a cloud hanging over them revealed by Steph’s body language. She’s stiff and has an uneasy smile. Quite the opposite of the next photo!
6. In the CBB house we see such passion in their body language, they’re literally wrapped around each other. But no matter how much lust they felt for each other it was doomed.
7. Check out some more synchrony in Steph's and Jeremy's body language and expressions. They both move with ease and in unison and are happy to be in each other's company.
8. They're still in synchrony and mirroring each other's happy expressions but Jeremy eyes-up the paparazzi. It flags up warning signals to me that they're treating spending time together as a lark when it comes to the media. They must start protecting their time.
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