My spurned son’s dad is threatening to ruin my happiness
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Dear Deidre
I HAD the most passionate sex of my life with an old friend.
I thought we would be together for life but I fell pregnant and he immediately hated me.
Dear Deidre
I AM sick of my boyfriend neglecting me and I’m tempted to have an affair.
He is a workaholic and hardly ever home.
When he is, he just wants to sleep.
Dear Deidre
I’VE got this overwhelming fear that my boyfriend will leave me for someone else.
He is 18 and I’m a 16-year-old girl.
He’s good at responding to texts and apologises if he doesn’t text back within ten minutes.
But I can’t trust him because of cheating boys I’ve been out with before.
I battle with myself every day.
I want to be close to him and trust him but part of me convinces me he’s going to leave.
I cause arguments just to prove myself right.
DEIDRE SAYS: You don’t have to let your past dictate your relationship now.
Write a list of all the ways this boyfriend is different from earlier ones and read it when you feel anxious.
Don’t be so attached to your phone that you are worrying if he doesn’t text you back within minutes.
It doesn’t mean he’s cheating.
My e-leaflet on Dealing With Jealousy explains more self-help tactics.
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