Sexpert reveals how you can make sure you get bang for your buck between the sheets
Her book, The Orgasm Prescription for Women is a 21-day guide to overhaul your sex life
DOES your orgasm end with anything but a big bang?
Not to worry — Dr Andrea Pennington reckons that if you follow the advice in her new book you could be having body-shaking orgasms more frequently than ever before.
The American doctor says: “Most people think that orgasm happens in the genitals when it actually happens in the brain.
“Of course, women know that if they are not mentally stimulated and sufficiently relaxed, the peak of orgasm will seem as unattainable at the summit of Mt Everest.
“But the usual sex advice doesn’t address the real problem. Follow my techniques and you will reach orgasm with newfound ease.”
Her book, The Orgasm Prescription for Women, is a 21-day guide for overhauling your sex life.
Here, Dr Pennington shares 20 of her best sex tips to help boost your time between the sheets (or on the dining table).
1. PUT SEX ON THE BRAIN: In the beginning of a relationship most women say they get sexually turned on quickly because of the excitement and newness at play.
The more aroused you are mentally, the more your brain will increase blood flow to your vagina and clitoris.
Tune into the sensations you feel to create an erotic feedback loop between your lady parts and your brain.
Don’t ignore the tingling you feel between your legs. Focus on it. Relish in your body’s ability to turn on.
You can practice pelvic-floor exercises throughout the day to improve your sense of what’s going on in your vagina.
The added muscular strength gained from these exercises is a bonus and will often make your orgasm stronger and more intense.
2. BUILD ANTICIPATION WITH LONGER FOREPLAY: The more aroused we are, the easier it is to achieve orgasm.
And since most women take a bit longer than men to warm up sexually, it’s best to begin foreplay hours before a sexual encounter.
To prime yourself, you should prioritise, plot, plan and fantasise about sex early and often.
Enjoy the experience of pleasure building over time by bringing erotic ideas to mind throughout the day. This helps your brain get your sexual motor running.
Amp up anticipation by taking a steamy tea break in the afternoon to read a bit of erotic fiction or send a sexy text. Write down a fun fantasy you’d like to try.
Doing something like this at midday will make your brain think there’s a reward in store and will turn on your sexy engine for the fun ahead.
3. RIDE THE WAVE OF ECSTASY: To enjoy a deeply pleasurable and expansive orgasm requires total surrender to the passion and sensations of the experience.
With increased focus on pleasurable physical and emotional sensations, you strengthen the feedback signals in the brain which heighten arousal.
However, women become distracted by their own anxiety or worries about how they look, smell or taste.
Change your focus to what you are feeling and to the pleasure you are giving your partner so that your head stays in the game.
Surrender to the flow of erotic pleasure and your brain’s blast of electrical activity will trigger physical spasms of ecstasy.
4. MAKE IT A MULTI-SENSORY AFFAIR: Because we tend to stay in our heads, we often cut off or don’t recognise the body’s sensations.
Plus our inner critic can totally derail orgasmic flow. So, trick your mind by diverting your mind from inner critique and judgement.
Tune into your senses and allow yourself to be turned on by everything, not just sexual stimuli. Do this throughout the whole day.
And deliberately tune into your sense of sight, touch, taste, smell and hearing before and during the act of lovemaking.
5. BREATHE YOUR WAY TO ECSTASY: Does it surprise you to know that some women can reach orgasm without any genital stimulation?
Deep belly breathing, coupled with focus on the waves of energy felt in the body, can bring a woman to orgasm without any genital contact.
In fact, tantra practitioners say that if we associate deep, erotic pleasure with the delicious sensations we experience throughout the day, we can create a rush of energy to course through the body.
Bringing the breath in alignment with focus on the body’s energy helps the brain to push us into an ecstatic climax.
Set a reminder on your smartphone for every two hours to stop, breathe deeply and let your senses come alive.
This trains your brain to tune into pleasure in its many forms.
6. MAKE MINE A COMBO, PLEASE: Since most women do not reach orgasm with penetrative intercourse alone, combine that with stimulation of multiple erogenous zones.