I’m pregnant after the ultimate dirty weekend… and my baby has three potential fathers
In a wild 48 hours I slept with three men but I forgot to take the pill
Dear Deidre
I HAD sex with three men in 48 hours. Now I’m pregnant and any one of them could be the dad.
I’m 25, my boyfriend is 27 and we’ve been together for two years. We decided from the start not to have children for a while because we felt we weren’t ready.
My sister got engaged recently. She’s 22 and lives with her fiancé, who is 23. They had a party at their flat on a Saturday night.
Everyone got really drunk and after all the guests had gone, there were only the four of us left.
My boyfriend and I offered to help clean up but we first opened more wine and some beers. My boyfriend and my sister went off separately to bed so I was left with her fiancé.
He then suggested another glass to finish the wine. Once it was empty we decided to play spin the bottle.
I had to pay a forfeit, which was to take my top off. So I did. Then it was my skirt, then underwear.
Before I knew it we were having wild sex.
The following morning we acted as though nothing had happened.
My boyfriend had to work later on the Sunday so I went shopping and bumped into an ex of mine in town.
We broke up three years ago. He was a player and broke my heart. He is 29 now and said he’s changed and asked me to have a drink with him.
We started flirting and he used all his old charms. I couldn’t resist going back to his place. Sure enough we had sex but I realised afterwards he is as much of a player as ever.
There were photos all over of him with his girlfriend.
I must have forgotten my Pill that drunken weekend, and my boyfriend and I had already had sex on the Friday night.
Now I’ve found out I am pregnant and I don’t know which man is the father.
DEIDRE SAYS: Talk over the details with your doctor, because he may be able to say if one of the men is the more likely father.
But let’s be realistic. Your boyfriend doesn’t feel ready to be a dad, your sister’s fiancé clearly only wanted a one-night stand and your ex is still a player – and has a girlfriend.
Sounds as though you’d likely be a single parent and just think what a nightmare organising DNA testing would unleash.
But you have to be sure, as you have to live with any decision for the rest of your life.
My e-leaflet on Unplanned Pregnancy tells how to think this through and find support.
My foot fetish is ruining my relationship
Dear Deidre
I HAVE had a foot fetish for as long as I can remember. It’s destroying my relationship.
I have been with my girlfriend for 18 months. I’m 23 and she is 21.
I confided in her about my fetish after around six months and she let me act out some of my fantasies on her, but it quickly turned sour as now she thinks her feet are all I’m interested in.
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Niece holidays in Spain but won't repay my £4,000
Dear Deidre
MY niece has virtually ignored me ever since I lent her £4,000, though I’ve asked her endless times to pay me back.
I am a man of 54. My niece is my late sister’s daughter and is 25. The money was meant to pay for a car and equipment to start a new job as a freelance hairdresser.
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Customer at work is Mr Perfect... but am I being too keen
Dear Deidre
Dear Deidre
I GET on well with a customer who comes into the store where I work but I don’t want to fall for him if there’s no hope.
I am a gay guy of 18 and I think he is in his early twenties. I only work two days a week. We chat in a friendly, natural way and I can tell he likes me.
We have started to joke and flirt. He fits the bill of Mr Perfect but I don’t want to look too keen only to find out he is just being friendly.
DEIDRE SAYS: You don’t want to compromise your job. Be friendly until you find out if he is single.
That way you’ll avoid getting in too deep and being let down. Leave it to him to make any move to see you outside work.