My hubby has no idea his four-year-old daughter is actually my lover’s child

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Dear Deidre

I’VE had virtually no sex life since my daughter was born six months ago. I’m fed up.

Sex was great and used to be frequent before she was born. Now I am lucky if we have sex every two months.

I help my wife at home with cooking, tidying up and getting my daughter ready for bed – but nothing works.

I’ve talked to my wife about bringing the spark back and it is OK for a week but then goes back to zero sex. She is 32, I am 34. I love her but must it be only as the mother of my gorgeous daughter? I want the physical closeness back.

DEIDRE SAYS:  Having a baby is a huge interruption to your sex life. You have another demanding person to consider and can feel stressed and exhausted.

Tell your wife you are worried about her lack of interest in sex. Suggest you both read my e-leaflet Sex Problems After A Baby.

Make sure she has time to relax by doing your share.

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Cheating ex hates me for ending it

Dear Deidre

I POSTED a letter through my girlfriend’s door saying that I loved her but I had to let her go. Now she says I have ruined her life.

We have known each other for five years, after we were students together.

We lost contact after leaving college but met up again a year ago and all the old feelings returned.

One thing led to another and we started a relationship. She is 22 and I am 21.

But then she started staying out all night with another guy and I had to practically beg to see her.

It broke my heart but she refused to stop seeing him. That’s when I called it a day.

It is almost like she wants to be single but still have me in case she gets hurt.

DEIDRE SAYS:  You may well be right. She sounds to have been very manipulative. But posting a note through her door was not the best way to end it.

A face-to-face chat can feel more challenging but you could have been clear that the failure of your relationship was down to her lack of honesty and commitment.

You might have felt better to say that out loud too.

Dear Deidre

I HAVE just married my partner at a quiet, private ceremony. Now my parents are not speaking to me because I didn’t invite them.