Sex with fat wife’s hot cousin at family BBQ was one fling too many – now she’s dumped me
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Dear Deidre
I SNEAKED upstairs at a family barbecue and had sex with my wife’s hot cousin – it was just one in a string of affairs but my wife says it was one too many.
She says the cheating and lies have killed her love for me.
Whether this works or not, you need to understand why you have cheated habitually and see how to stop.
Otherwise your marriage or any other relationship is never going to survive.
My e-leaflet Can’t Be Faithful? will help.
TOPIC FOR TODAY
ONLY one in 20 women has no worries about her weight, and one in six men.
My e-leaflet explains how to reach your “happy weight” and stay there without starving or relying on impossible levels of willpower.
For a copy email me at problems@deardeidre.org.
Wedge between us after car debt
Dear Deidre
MY boyfriend owes me a lot of money but he gets upset when I mention it.
He is currently unemployed.
I work full-time and had some savings when we moved in together.
I am 24, he is 26.
He needed a car for job interviews so we bought one on finance in my name.
He never missed a payment until last month, so I paid it.
I have used all my savings while he has been unemployed and I am scraping the barrel now.
It is driving a wedge between us.
An old flame messaged me recently.
We texted for hours and he wants to meet up.
I’ve declined but I’m tempted.
My boyfriend gets upset whenever I mention money.
He says he is the man and he should be supporting me.
It makes me feel really guilty.
DEIDRE SAYS: You have done your best and have no need to feel guilty.
Tell him you each need to take responsibility for your own finances and he needs to get a job – any job, as long as he is earning.
My e-leaflet Help For Job Hunters has lots of ideas.
If he doesn’t make a serious effort, best end your relationship rather than cheat on him.
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Fallen in love with abusive wife's sis
In any case focus on your marriage for now and straighten that out one way or another.
If you end up single, then think about your sister-in-law.
Hubby's only after sex with me
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