That could make a difference.

Suggest she see her GP and contacts Thyroid UK for advice about living with hypothyroidism (, 01255 820 407).

Loveless relationship is leading to marriage

Dear Deidre

MY girlfriend is looking at engagement rings and wedding venues.

I love her but I am feeling trapped in this relationship and pushed into marriage.

I’ve tried to get out but I can’t.

We are both 26 and have lived together for three years.

I gave up my old life and moved to be with her and I’m very much missing my old friends and family.

Her aunt, uncle and cousins all live in New Zealand but they are coming over for Christmas this year.

She wants to have a Christmas wedding so all her family can be there.

I can’t recall that she asked me if I wanted to do this at all.

I’ve tried twice to break up with her but ended up backing down.

My girlfriend has anxiety issues and sees a therapist.

I don’t know how well she would cope if we split.

I don’t want to hurt her but feel like I have to escape.

DEIDRE SAYS: It is sad but the longer you leave it, the more hurt she will be.

If you are feeling rushed into marriage, tell her that the timing is not right.

But if you have realised she is not right for you, you must tell her the truth.

At least she will have support from her therapist.

My e-leaflet Ending A Relationship will help you find the right words.

Sozzled girl let slip about fling with my partner

Dear Deidre

MY boyfriend had an affair with his sister’s best friend.

It was a pure fluke I got to know about it.

We have been together for three years and it hasn’t all been plain sailing.

I am 22 and he is 23.

His sister invited us to her engagement party.

I went out to smoke and met another guest.

She said the girl getting engaged was her best friend.

She was drunk and told me she’d had an affair with her friend’s younger brother – my boyfriend.

I confronted him and he said it was just a mistake.

I’ve finished with him but he texts every day to say sorry.

DEIDRE SAYS: Simply saying it was a mistake isn’t enough.

Only give him a second chance if he is ready to talk about the serious changes that are needed to rebuild your trust.

My e-leaflet Cheating – Can you Get Over It? can help.

Violent boyfriend is making me have his baby

Dear Deidre

MY boyfriend is bullying me to have a baby but I keep saying no because he is abusive and violent.
I have a six-year-old daughter from my previous relationship.

She lives with my mum as I suffered from severe postnatal depression after she was born.

My boyfriend torments me for not having her with me and tells me how useless I am.