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Dr Pam Spurr reveals the 6 must-know signs to spot a womaniser… and how to avoid getting hurt

Sex and relationships expert Dr Pam unveils the signals to watch our for if you think you're falling for a player

Our sex and relationship columnist Dr Pam Spurr regularly brings you must-know info for the bedroom and beyond. Follow Dr Pam on Twitter

Two infamous womanisers Charlie Sheen and Shane Warne have been racking up column inches this week. Charlie for fronting a condom campaign.

You must admire his honesty, he wishes he’d always used them (remember that, kids). While Shane has evidently been dazzling single women on a dating app.

 Dr Pam Spurr has revealed the 6 telltale signs that you might be dating a womaniser
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Dr Pam Spurr has revealed the 6 telltale signs that you might be dating a womaniserCredit: Getty Images

Both of these men have form. So you have to wonder why so many women have fallen for their charms.

Here’s the rub - even when you know you’ve just met a womaniser - it’s like red to a bull. They can be a bit irresistible and women think I’ll be the one to bag him.

Because I have your backs, you can prevent him taking advantage.

Here are six signs he won’t take your flirting past a fling:

*He makes you feel so special – You can hardly believe it, he’s so into you! You've just met and yet he’s dishing out attention like sweets. It is 24/7 and pretty intense.

 Number 1: He makes you feel so special you can hardly believe your luck
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Number 1: He makes you feel so special you can hardly believe your luckCredit: Getty Images

But watch out, passion burns out quickly with this ‘too much, too soon’ type of guy. Be warned, he can easily switch off the attention as quickly as he switched it on.

*Just the two of you - You’ve been meeting up, probably had some pretty hot sex, the next step would be to meet his friends.

But there is no sign that’s going to happen. The thing is, this is just about you, him, and a good time.

 Number 2: He only likes to spend time with just you two
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Number 2: He only likes to spend time with just you twoCredit: Getty Images

Unless you happened to meet him when he was with his mates in a pub or clubbing, womanisers avoid mixing their temporary flings with their friends.

*Watch his eye-line – You can’t quite guess what’s happening but you have a sixth sense that when he’s chatting to you he’s also scanning the room. Unfortunately he could be on the lookout for other women.

 Number 3. He has a wondering eye and every time he scans the room it could be a sign he's looking for other women
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Number 3. He has a wondering eye and every time he scans the room it could be a sign he's looking for other womenCredit: Getty Images

If you get this sixth sense then watch his eye-line - does it always look up when, e.g., the pub door opens? As a womaniser he can’t resist checking for other talent.

*He’s great with women - You can’t fail to notice he’s great with women. He was great with your friends on that first night you met him at the pub.

 Number 4: He's wonderful with women and knows exactly how to charm everyone
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Number 4: He's wonderful with women and knows exactly how to charm everyoneCredit: Getty Images

He always has a compliment for waitresses and bar staff. He seems to understand and love the company of women.

That’s the problem: he attracts women, he’s attracted to them, and you’re probably one of many.

*You can’t pin him down - You’ve had a couple good times, you’ve had lots of messages from him. You’re telling your friends - even mum – all about him.

 Number 5: He suddenly goes off the radar and you can never pin him down
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Number 5: He suddenly goes off the radar and you can never pin him downCredit: Getty Images

But suddenly he goes off-radar. He’s hard to pin down and you don’t know what’s happening. Sadly he’s probably already losing interest.

*Places to go, people to see – What happened that first time you met? You two laughed and flirted over drinks. You swapped details.

 Number 6: One minute he's extremely interested in you but the next hes ready to dump plans for something else
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Number 6: One minute he's extremely interested in you but the next hes ready to dump plans for something elseCredit: Getty Images

But then he explained he was going to a party, or to a friend’s ‘thing’, or he already had other plans. Trust me, a womaniser always has lots of options. You’re only one option.

Any of these signs ring a bell? Then beware, he could be too hot to handle. If however you’re up for a good time, happily single, and not looking for love, he could be perfect.

Womanisers can make great part-time boyfriends or bonk-buddies as long as you’re singing from the same page.

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