Bridezilla insists bridesmaid comes to her hen party instead of spending time with dying relative
The upset woman posted on Reddit how the last thing she wants to do is get drunk when she'd rather be in hospital with her relative
A BRIDESMAID has revealed how her demanding bride has insisted she come to a hen do instead of spending time with her relative who is dying from cancer.
The anonymous woman posted on Reddit how the bridezilla wouldn’t let her drop out of the plans to be with her relative in hospital.
She : “A close relative of mine is in hospital dying of cancer right now and has been given days to live.
“He is my family’s only priority right now and we are all devastated, he is suffering awfully and we spend our days in the hospital almost waiting for him to be put out of his misery.
“On Saturday I am supposed to be attending my best friends hen party. I am the bridesmaid and have arranged it all with the other bridesmaid.”
The woman said how the party involves drinks at a friend’s house, a meal out and then a night clubbing.
I in no way want to attend, I can’t think of anything worse right now than hosting a group of 14 guests and acting happy when I’ve spent the last week crying, and spending my evening in a club full of drunk people.
Bridesmaid on Reddit
She explained: “This has been tough as bride is expecting a lot and her family attending have no money to attend (people have complained about the meals costing £30 when this is all they may have to pay for).
“Some have cancelled and I have lost money because of unpaid deposits.”
Given that her close relative is in a fragile state in hospital, the bridesmaid said that she is definitely not in the mood to party.
She said: “I in no way want to attend, I can’t think of anything worse right now than hosting a group of 14 guests and acting happy when I’ve spent the last week crying, and spending my evening in a club full of drunk people.”
However, when she shared her thoughts with the bride, it did not go down well at all.
She said: “I’ve called bride tonight to try to hint I may not be able to attend and hoped she’d understand.
“She lost her dad a few years ago to cancer, she knows the impact it has.
“She was supportive in the conversation but also said as long as I’ve organised and attend the hen, then she’s happy. She’s not even considering the possibility of me not attending.
“My boyfriend and family think she is being ridiculous, and I am getting annoyed that she won’t openly give me the option to do whatever I need to do.
“I don’t want to let her down as she means a lot to me, but I am in no position to support her and her party right now.”
HOW MUCH IS THE AVERAGE HEN DO?
Hen parties used to be about a bride and her mates having a girls’ night out before her big day.
But nowadays the cost of a hen or stag do has risen to astronomical amounts - with the average person forking out a staggering £507 per event.
Brits even admitted to sacrificing their own holidays so they could attend the big event.
And a third said they expected to use their annual leave for stag or hen dos, which now often involve trips abroad or a full weekend of activities.
The rising costs have understandably been a cause of concern for many, with four in five (80 per cent) saying they feel hen dos and stag dos are far too pricey.
And nearly half (46 per cent) said they have felt pressured to attend an event they just don’t have the funds for.
The research, conducted by clothing retailer Banana Moon, found that despite the rising costs, just over half (55 per cent) of Brits feel they are still integral to a wedding.
She asked Reddit users what they thought of her dilemma, and most were firmly on her side.
One wrote: “You need to straight up say that you will not be going.”
Another added: “It's totally reasonable of you to skip the hen if you explain you're simply not up for a party.”
However, some said the bridesmaid should give the bride the benefit of the doubt.
One said: “Right now she might still think that an evening out would be good for you. Please tell her plainly that you are emotionally exhausted and grieving, and that, while you love and support her, you just can’t attend her party.”
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