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Desperate mum designs T-shirt for her autistic son so people will stop telling him to ‘shut up’ and calling him ‘naughty’

Kellie Baker, 41, from Kent, designed the clothing range with her son Oscar, 5, in mind

A MUM who is fed up with being judged by strangers for her 'naughty' child has designed a range of T-shirts to make people aware of her son's autism.

Caring for her autistic son Oscar was already tricky enough for Kellie Baker, from Kent, without the constant stares and unsolicited remarks made by strangers about her son's behaviour.

 Kellie Baker designed the t-shirts to help other people be more mindful of Oscar's autism
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Kellie Baker designed the t-shirts to help other people be more mindful of Oscar's autismCredit: SWNS:South West News Service

Oscar, 5, was diagnosed with autism, epilepsy and a brain condition causing developmental delays, at 18 months old - but Kellie admits because he looks 'normal', people mistake his disability for naughtiness.

The 41-year-old revealed he has been told to 'shut up' by adults, and that when he shouts or acts up in public many parents have told her they would 'smack him' if he was their child.

And even when people keep their thoughts to themselves, Kellie says the family often receive 'disapproving glances' towards Oscar.

To combat this problem, the mum-of-one has designed a range of clothes that have a message pointing out the child wearing it has autism, and asking people to 'be kind'.

 Kellie said that Oscar often gets 'disapproving glances' from strangers when they are out
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Kellie said that Oscar often gets 'disapproving glances' from strangers when they are outCredit: SWNS:South West News Service

Kellie said: "When we go out, it doesn't look like there's anything wrong with him - he looks like a normal run-of-the-mill kid.

"But Oscar does have unpredictable behaviour, and he gets lots of looks and gets called naughty by adults. We've even had someone say 'for god's sake, shut up' because he can really scream.

"We have even experienced people saying to us before, 'if he were my son, he'd be getting a smack'. He's only talked about when people say, 'what's wrong with him'. It's really offensive."

Naturally, comments like this make Oscar feel even more anxious in unfamiliar surroundings, where he can feel uncomfortable and claustrophobic.

 Her clothing company, Born Anxious, is to help warn strangers about the condition
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Her clothing company, Born Anxious, is to help warn strangers about the conditionCredit: Born Anxious

"It can trigger a meltdown with him," Kellie added. "And sometimes Oscar's behaviour can make you go 'wow'. He could be on all fours in a public place taking his shoes and socks off."

To help others understand, Kellie decided to establish clothing company Born Anxious, which can be worn by those with autism to warn others of their condition.

The label sells a variety of T-shirts for both children and adults, baby clothes, vests and tote bags with messages including 'be kind, I have autism', and 'unpredictable and amazing'.

Mum Kellie continued: "It's about informing people in a really gentle way that he may need a wide berth when we're out. Someone could say hello to him without realising that could ruin our whole day.

"I've had a really good reaction to the products, and a lot of people have said that people have been kinder to them because of it."

 The t-shirts feature slogans including 'unpredictable and amazing', and 'autism army'
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The t-shirts feature slogans including 'unpredictable and amazing', and 'autism army'Credit: Born Anxious

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