This is how to talk dirty to your partner… according to a webcam girl
Amber Kelly spills the beans on sex talk
TALKING dirty can spice things up in the bedroom and make your sex life hotter.
But not everyone is comfortable with filthy chat and some find it positively embarrassing.
What you need is some tips from a professional and webcam worker Amber Kelly, from the site Off the Record, is just the girl.
She has been sharing her expertise with the , and here are a few pointers.
Use Sound Effects
Moaning and heavy breathing are great turn ons for men, and Amber recommends being as vocal as you can with noises.
She said: "It’s unlikely your partner will go crazy for a silent lover, whether this be in the bedroom or over the phone, so emphasise every sound."
Focus on your partner
Talk about their body and what you want to do to them.
Make them feel wanted and desired and use trigger words and pet names, to let them know you are entirely focussed on them.
Make sure you are not going to be interrupted and that you can completely invest in the sex talk.
Amber said: “I was once in my car eating a McDonald’s and my client didn’t even notice.
“I still gave the call my full attention and knew no one would walk in on me by accident.”
Get Descriptive
If you’re not sure what to say, describe every move, every thought and everything you imagine is going to happen next without summarising.
As long as you keep describing everything in your head (providing it’s not the shopping list) you won’t run out of things to say.
Start by suggesting what you are planning to do to your partner in graphic detail, and build from there.
Take It To The Max
Sex talk is meant to be extreme so go for it.
Amber said: “I take everything in sex and exaggerate it to be almost porn-like. Sex talk is meant to get your partner’s pulse racing so the wilder the better…”
Exaggerate and let you imagination run riot. Tell your partner the things about him that turn you on and the little things he does to your body that drive you wild with passion.
Find Out What Works
Some men will love hearing how big their manhood is while others may feel insecure.
Amber recommends talking about what you both like to hear beforehand and having a ‘safe word’ in case either of you begin to feel uncomfortable.
Don’t Overthink
Say what comes naturally, don’t hesitate and don’t be timid, as that will dampen the mood.
If you’re feeling a little insecure, let him do the talking for a while or ask him questions about what he wants to do, and what he likes.
If you are finding some sex talk from your partner makes you uncomfortable, steer them away without making them feel their fantasies are wrong.
Amber said: “Try to remember that there are lots of things we find arousing in theory that we would never do in real life, so just because your other half is talking about a threesome, for instance, that doesn’t mean that they actually think you should bring someone else into your bedroom.”
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