We meet three couples who refuse to turn down their sexy moans and groans for the sake of their neighbours
A whopping 234 complaints were made to councils about noisy sex last year
ARE you ramping up the noise while romping in the bedroom?
Councils spent £55,000 last year investigating reports of noisy sex, responding to 234 complaints.
But sex expert Alix Fox says we shouldn’t tone down the moans and groans for our neighbours’ sake.
She says: “Making noise in bed should be celebrated. It can massively improve your orgasm and enjoyment of sex.”
Here, we speak to three couples whose romancing gets rowdy at times — and reveal to them what a racket they are making.
And Alix gives her view on just why bolder is better in the bedroom.
Georgie and Murray - 93 decibles
STORE manager Georgie Wilden, 28, has been with boyfriend Murray Nicholls, 29, a builder, for four years.
They live in Upper Heyford, Oxon, and say the volume of their sex depends on one thing – whether their daughter Penelope, two, is at home.
Georgie says: “We each work different hours and having Penelope means we usually only make time for sex once a week. I’ve never been one to be silent but it did change when Penelope came along. If she stays with her grandparents, we can be as noisy as we like.
“Sex is much better when you don’t have to worry about making noise. It’s more exciting and lets your partner know what you like and vice versa, which is always good in the bedroom.
“It makes you feel less inhibited. I’ve never thought about how loud we are before now.”
Murray adds: “I like to know Georgie is enjoying it. Communication is key. It’s great when we can let go knowing there’s no one to disturb – although trying to be quiet can sometimes be exciting.”
After hearing how loud their sex was, Georgie says: “Wow! That seems really loud – much louder than I realised. I wouldn’t tone it down, though. It’s important to be in the moment and enjoy it.”
Grace and Rhys - 77 decibels
SINGER Grace Blane, 26, lives with Rhys Stewart, 23, a software developer, in Reading.
They have been dating for two years and have sex around five times a week.
Grace says: “When we first met we both lived with our parents, so we couldn’t go wild. The longer we’ve been together, the more confident we’ve felt in bed and the louder our sex has become.
“Sometimes I want to experiment and use my voice more. If I’ve had a couple of glasses of wine, I’ll be more vocal, or if I’m feeling more frisky. I never force it. Good sex is about being relaxed.”
After hearing how loud their sex was, Grace says: “How romantic! It’s pretty odd to be compared to the sound of a lawnmower.
"One strange thing I noticed was that the minute we started getting into it, we whispered to one another. That must be a habit from when we lived with our parents.”
Rhys says: “As long as it’s not over-the-top, loud sex is great. It shows both partners are enjoying the moment. Most guys want a woman to let loose, as long as it’s truthful and honest.
“There are times we just want to have fun, rather than be sensual, and that’s louder.
"It’s usually after a couple of drinks. It’s sexier when Grace is more vocal.
"It shows she’s not worried about anything and is just enjoying herself.”
Ioana and Anwar - 106 decibels
IONA LEWIS, 25, lives with boyfriend Anwar Kaur, 36, and says when they have sex – around four times a week – they rarely keep a lid on the volume.
The Cardiff pair, who are both researchers, have been together for two years and weren’t shocked by their bedroom decibel reading.
Iona says: “I moved in with Anwar after our first proper date in April 2015.
I stayed over one night and never left! Our sex life is adventurous, open and caring. We’re constantly experimenting.
When we first started dating, we’d have sex three or four times a day and our housemates would complain about the noise.
“But noise is a way of expressing the fun. I usually start off quietly and get louder, whereas men can get into it quickly.
I don’t have any insecurities – although I’d hate for my parents to hear us.”
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Anwar says: “Good sex is about communication. It’s fun to play about with your voice – to shout, clap and smack, then be super-quiet and whisper.”
After hearing how loud their sex was, Anwar says: “It makes me feel powerful.
"We felt free because there was no one in the house and there was construction work going on nearby.
“It does make me think twice about my housemates. Maybe we should find time to have sex when there are fewer people around.”
[boxout featured-image="5339898"]SEXPERT ALIX FOX, right, offers this advice for sex worth shouting about:
- Scream if you want to go faster. Tell your partner where and how you want to be touched. Don’t rely on body language.
Not good with words? Ask your lover to explore your body with their hands – then holler when they find your hot-spots. - Play “Tarzan and Jane”. In a Durex poll of 2,000 people, almost a quarter (23%) said they liked love-making to be “playful”. Being loud adds fun. Try getting primal – no talking, just expressive cries, sighs, groans and grunts (except an agreed safeword to stop the action at once if either of you says it).
- Feel free! Making noise can be liberating. When you are in the moment, you are more likely to have a fantastic time. It can bring you closer to your lover too, as you are showing either other your true selves.
- Have better orgasms. Shouting makes you breathe deeply, which can help women orgasm. Renee Denyer, of the Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, says: “Many ladies pant fast and high in their chest during sex – which can give you a headache, not a high. Breathing deep into the pit of your stomach can coax out a climax.”
- Hit a roar nerve. The vagus nerve leads from the genitals to the voice box. Making noise can enhance sexual sensations by waking up that nerve pathway.
- Turn up, turn on. Most people like hearing their partner get excited. It boosts confidence.
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