Mum demands family members give her kids cash for Christmas rather than presents… but others say she is being crass
The mum-of-four says that her house is too cluttered for gifts and claims that her kids actually prefer being given money to spend
A MUM has been slammed online after she demanded that her family give her kids cash for Christmas and their birthdays instead of presents.
The woman, who has four kids, told her relatives that her house is too cluttered for gifts and claims that all her youngsters want is money.
But other mums have labelled her as being crass, and say she doesn't have the right to ask for cash from her relatives.
It comes after the mum's sister-in-law took to to ask if she was being unreasonable for feeling uncomfortable for being asked to just give her nieces and nephews money.
She explained: "Had a request from SIL (sister-in-law) that could we please give her children cash for Christmas and birthdays as ‘they already have everything’ and often they miss out on gifts when they don’t fit/are duplicated and I assume don’t like it.
"They have 4dc (dear children) and she has cited clutter and space which I get.
"I have explained that dh (dear husband) and I feel quite strongly that we don’t want to give money as gifts yet as they are young.
"I also suggested the children give us ideas of what they do want, that we check sizes or that we get experience type gifts (like zoo voucher etc).
"SIL isn’t happy about this at all. Said she’s happy for us to give presents at Christmas but that her dc really want money and has made me feel extremely uncomfortable about it all.
";I’m annoyed as to me a gift not something that should be expected. But I wonder if I’ve lost sense of perspective and I’m too stuck in old school ways???"
But most on the parenting forum agreed with the auntie and said it wasn't in the spirit of Christmas to just hand over cash.
One mum said: "It’s weird as I’m happy to give money for weddings and christenings, but money for Christmas (unless it’s your own children) feels a bit crass and impersonal."
Another added: "Gifts are gifts, you (or your parents) don't get to dictate what they are.
"I can see why they are asking but if you want to get them a tangible gift then that's entirely up to you. And it's nice to have wrapped parcels under the tree rather than a pile of envelopes."
While one mum even wrote: "I highly doubt that children aged under 10 would prefer money to an actual present.
"I know someone who requests money from relatives and then uses it to buy Xmas presents and makes out they are from her. Could your SIL be doing that OP? She is extremely crass to be making this request regardless."
While some mums also made suggestions on what the aunt could give her nieces and nephews without cluttering her sister-in-law's house.
One said: "An iou day out maybe? Then you can take them somewhere!! Wouldn't give cash - gifts are a bonus, asking for cash is grabby and dc shouldn't grow up expecting cash off people imo."
While another suggested: "If I were you, I'd ask SIL for each child's bank account details and put money in a savings account for each child.
"I understand SIL's point about clutter and there is so much waste associated with Xmas. If it is savings (i.e. not for the child to squander) then your money is put to good use & is not wasted."
Previously, we told you about another woman who blasted her sister-in-law for refusing to give her niece a toy the aunt had bought for her.
While we also brought you the story on how one mum was worried that ten gifts each wasn't enough to give her kids at Christmas.
