The 12 signs of cheating to look out for, according to body language expert Judi James – including changes in their voice and manspreading…
Is your partner playing away? These tells could be a major indicator
SERIAL cheats can be very good at keeping their affairs under wraps, but subtle tells can still give them away.
Staring at you more and changing their grooming rituals are all signs that they could be playing away, according to analysis from TV body language expert Judi James.
So which key signals point to infidelity? Body language analyst Judi James gives The Sun her top 12 red flags...
Their phone behaviour changes
They will either buy a second mobile or jump like a scalded cat when you get near their normal one.
They’ll also leave the room to take calls and leave the phone on and take texts 24/7.
Everything is locked, too, in case you decide to take a sneaky look at their messages.
He'll splay more
All that cheating will re-boot his alpha behaviour like chest-splaying or leg-splaying.
This is a non-verbal form of boasting prompted by the new sexual flattery and interest.
Women tend to change their wardrobe, wearing younger, sexier-looking clothes.
They'll be more demanding in the bedroom
Don’t expect them to go off sex with you just because they’re playing away.
All that cheating can power up their libido and they’ll be dying to try out all those new techniques they’ve been learning.
Their increased sexual confidence means they might be more demanding and critical in bed, too.
They will stare at you more
If they’re trying to make a decision about leaving they will be using increased evaluation signals, watching you when they think you’re not looking to see how you match up to the competition.
Sadly this can give the impression that they’re gazing at you lovingly.
They might also be looking for anything negative or annoying you might do in a bid to lessen their guilt by shifting the blame onto you.
But they will avoid eye contact
The eyes really are the biggest body language ‘tell’ in the book so they’ll feel you’re looking into their soul and spotting their guilt when you make eye contact.
Expect an increase in cut-offs, i.e. looking away as soon as you look at them.
Their voice will change
Both men and women’s voices drop in tone when they’re feeling sexy so when you hear his/her voice sounding deeper as they chat on the phone you should be suspicious.
Plus they will laugh more during the conversation.
Hygiene alert
Grooming rituals will intensify.
They will be wanting to get rid of all traces of their love’s scents from their body and clothes so any increase in showering and dry cleaning should set warning bells clanging.
Sneaky cheaters often buy themselves new perfume/aftershave so any traces they might have missed can be passed off as this.
Pyjama time
If your partner usually sleeps nude you might suddenly find them wearing pyjamas of slipping into bed with the lights out.
Lovers are notorious for trying to stamp their territory, meaning love-bites or scratches on the back might need to be hidden.
An increase in anxiety signals
Cheating means lying and that is always a stressful thing to do.
Look for anxiety signals like fast-blinking, shallow and more rapid breathing, an increase in foot-tapping or fiddling rituals and a swing between emotional extremes like a swifter trigger to laughter/tears/irritation.
Born again teen
Most cheaters say their partner makes them feel young again and that means new tastes in music, movies, food and alcohol.
When old habits start to get broken for no reason ask yourself who they’re trying to impress.
Someone "vanishes" from their life
If a work colleague they’ve previously been talking about a lot suddenly vanishes from their conversations that is a very common sign of cheating.
When you mention the colleague’s name they suddenly become forgetful as they struggle to look nonchalant and play for time to avoid looking or sounding guilty.
Another ploy is to suddenly pretend to fall out with the person they’re cheating with.
"But I thought you hated them?" is a common comment from the partner when an affair is revealed.
They avoid PDAs
They’ll want to avoid any PDAs with you in case they get spotted by their lover.
No more arm around the shoulder or hand-holding in public, suddenly they’re walking with a gap between you, holding keys or bags in their inside hand to avoid any affectionate-looking touch.
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