Relationship experts weigh in on why you shouldn’t propose on Valentine’s Day – it’s cheesy for a start
VALENTINE’S Day is considered to be the most romantic time of the year - so it's no wonder that this is when many plan to pop the question to their other half.
Where and when you plan to ask someone to marry you can be nearly as important as the proposal itself.
And because it is such a monumental event, it's not surprising that you will want to make sure everything is perfect.
But relationship experts have revealed that February 14 is actually not the best time to get down on one knee.
Not only can proposing on Valentine's Day be much more expensive, but it can also feel impersonal and add unnecessary pressure.
Experts Gemma Nice and Hilary Sims spoke to to shed light on the situation.
Life Balance Councillor Hilary revealed how any other day of the year can be just as special as Valentine's Day when it comes to proposing to your partner.
She also urged those who are planning to ask someone to marry them on February 14th to carefully consider how their partner feels about Valentine's Day as a whole.
She said: "It is classed as the most romantic day of the year and there are lots of things available in the shops that you could buy to enhance the proposal, so you will remember when the proposal happened.
“However, some people might think you have only proposed because it is Valentine's Day.
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"The additional cost of everything on this day - this money could be put to better use towards the wedding itself or even the ring.
“This is a real personal choice, and I would hope by the time you propose to your partner, you will understand their views of Valentine's Day.
"Proposing to someone is so special, so a lot of thought needs to go into when and where the proposal happens.
"And depending on the person's view of Valentine's Day, it could take the shine off the proposal a little bit."
Sex and Relationship coach Gemma also warned that a Valentine's Day proposal could also come across as being too "cheesy", which could also put a damper on the special moment.
She explained: "There is also a stigma around it that because it’s a day for love, it might not be a day to propose.
"If there has been conflict, this needs to be discussed and worked through before anything else happens.
";It might be that you feel pressured because it’s the ‘right’ day to do it.
"The recipient may think it’s cheesy and didn’t want a proposal that way, especially on that particular day.";
Gemma also went on to add that every couple should have spoken about their future plans together before anyone gets down on one knee.
Making sure you're both in the same place in the relationship is key to ensuring that the moment is made special.
Private vs public proposals
THE relationship experts also shared their advice on private vs public proposals.
Gemma explained that this is different for each relationship and where they are together as a couple.
But she recommends proposing to your other half in private to avoid them feeling pressured in front of an audience.
She said: “This depends on where people are within their relationship.
"Both people need to have discussed getting married before any surprise happens.
"They may not be on the same page as their partner, and this will cause tension from both sides.
"It may even cause one side to reject the proposal.
"This is why it needs to be really done in private and not at a public event if that is what the proposer is thinking of doing.
"Having a private proposal will give them time to adjust, think about it, and make a fully vulnerable answer."
She adds: "Whatever people decide, make sure it’s been discussed first between the two of you and that’s both what you want from the next stage in the relationship.
"If you have both discussed it and a proposal is on the cards, then still talk and communicate to each other where you would like to do it, on what day you would like to do it, etc.
"Maybe at your favourite restaurant, or place, or a special place which means something to you.
"It might also be that a lot of people will be proposing on Valentine’s Day and that’s not your thing, that’s ok too.
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"Always discuss and communicate your wants and desires openly and honestly to each other.
"The more you do, the better understanding you will both have.”
