The 6 signs that made me realise my husband was sleeping with our teenage babysitter and why her pedicure was key
A WIFE shared the clues that led her to discover her husband was having an affair.
Various things in her home helped her come to the devastating realisation.
In her Reddit , the unnamed user revealed that her partner cheated on her with their children's babysitter.
The couple decided to hire their neighbour's 19-year-old daughter to mind their two sons while they were at work.
Despite the young woman's good looks, the 35-year-old mum said she was "never once insecure" about having her in her home until she began to notice her interactions with her husband.
"I came home one day to find my husband making Maggie laugh uncontrollably," she recalled.
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She explained how the incident stayed in the back of her head until one day she was changing the sheets in their guest bedroom.
"I found strands of blonde hair, no one in my family has blonde hair, I’m a brunette," she said.
She tried to convince herself that maybe the blonde babysitter had simply taken a quick nap during the day.
However, then her husband, 39, suggested they buy the younger woman a new car for her birthday.
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"[My] husband’s argument was that her car was old, and if she took our boys out it would be safer in a new car," she explained.
She shut down the suggestion but said that "alarms were going off" in her head.
Then the sitter switched her work attire from tracksuits to skirts and high heels, layering on make-up and getting her hair done regularly.
It was her fresh pedicure that was the dead giveaway for the Reddit user.
"Then I notice her toes are painted black, my husband has a thing for feet," she explained.
"I’ve known this for our entire relationship, his favourite colour on my toes is black.
"Now I have this 19-year-old coming to work in high heels with her toes done in my husband’s favourite colour."
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful."
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
Explaining that she was now "99% sure something was going on," the poster decided to go through her husband's phone.
She recovered deleted messages of her husband telling the younger woman his marriage was "basically over".
"They talk about spending the rest of their lives together, how she can move in as soon as I move out," she recalled.
The sitter went as far as to say the couple's children "won't even miss" their mother when they have her as "their new mum".
"I also have them on video kissing in our back yard, they must’ve forgot the security camera was there," she added.
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
"Talk to a lawyer, sort your finances and all before confronting him," advised one reader.
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"Start with an attorney, you have far too much to lose here. Protect yourself and your kids, and that can only be done through the legal process," agreed another person.
"After you get the ball rolling on the divorce, don't forget to tell your neighbour, who recommended her daughter to babysit for you, what a homewrecker her daughter is," said a third commenter.
