I slept with my boyfriend’s closeted dad years before we started going out – I feel awful for lying
MEETING your partner's parents can be awkward for anyone but one man's experience was on a whole other level.
The 30-year-old was planning on moving in with his boyfriend of two years when he was finally introduced to his family.
In a Reddit , the unnamed user recounted how he "went cold" when he first saw his boyfriend's dad.
"I recognised him as soon as I saw him," the original poster explained.
He revealed that two years before he met his boyfriend, 28, he had worked in the same building as his dad.
However, the two didn't just know each other as colleagues but had actually "hooked up" in the past.
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The Reddit user explained that they had begun chatting on the gay dating app Grindr and decided to sneak off to a "hidden place" in their office's multi story car park.
"We met there, chatted for a bit, and did some stuff," the poster recalled.
His boyfriend's dad had explained that he was married and wanted to be "very discreet."
The pair met up three times and chatted "frequently" on Grindr.
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However, they stopped contacting each other once the poster moved jobs.
So he couldn't believe his eyes when his former fling turned out to be his partner's dad.
"I was very uncomfortable the whole night, I could tell he was too at first," he said.
"We would barely talk, and when we did it was very brief and avoiding any eye contact."
His boyfriend's dad then announced that he was popping out to the shop to pick up a few bits and asked the Redditor to help him.
When they reached the shop, the older man "immediately started crying."
"He said a lot of things, but basically he started begging me to not say anything and didn't want his family to break apart," he wrote.
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"He tried to explain he was just very confused back then, sort of insinuated that he didn't do any of that anymore and that he was very ashamed of it.
"I felt I could only try to comfort him saying that I wouldn't say a thing and telling him not to worry."
However, on the way back the poster noticed how the man's attitude changed.
"He started to be quite touchy and started making some comments about my body which made me uncomfortable," he recalled.
"The rest of the night he toned it down but I still could feel some of that, which makes me assume he hasn't really changed."
He shared his plan to act like nothing happened and ignore any advances.
"I also can't help to feel I'm actively hiding something very important from my boyfriend," he said.
"Trust and honesty have been something we've discussed multiple times, and I love how we have been able to be very open with each other.
"I know he would never forgive me if he found out I hid this from him."
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
"You MUST tell your boyfriend of two years before it’s too late. Like NOW," wrote one reader.
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"You need to find a way to tell your boyfriend. No way that level of secret is going to be good for a relationship if you end up being married," said another commenter.
"I think I’d break up with the dude because I feel he’s inevitably going to find out. Especially if the dad is still trying s**t with you," pointed out a third person.
