My friend caught her husband pleasuring himself over my Instagram – she now blames me instead of him and I’m raging
PEOPLE use Instagram for all sorts of reasons from keeping in contact with loved ones to sharing your favourite moments captured on camera.
But one man has left everyone grossed out after pleasuring himself to his wife's friend's social media account.
Taking to Reddit, the friend in question asked if she was to blame for the situation.
She said her friend caught her husband in his car pleasuring himself to her Instagram photos.
"My friend Leigh, 28, caught her husband, 30, in his car, j**king off to my Instagram pictures," the woman revealed.
"Obviously, I’m icky about it too, but my friend is insisting I talk to her husband and tell him to stop because I owe her," she added.
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"I don’t think this is my fault, nor is it my problem and told her as much."
Now the friend has blocked her on social media and has bad-mouthed her to their friends claiming she was leading her husband on.
She continued: " Leigh is saying I led her husband on, coming between their marriage and that I refuse to “fix” the problem."
Instead of sitting down and taking the criticism she decided to hit back on social media to clear the air with their mutual friends.
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"I posted my side of the mess on my Insta, basically telling everyone who follows me my side of the story to clear the air," she explained.
"She says I’m dramatic and have taken it to a public level it didn’t need to get to.
"Most of our mutuals agree I had the right to defend myself, but there are others saying I went too far.
"I didn’t regret how I felt about it, or what I did, but the people saying I’m the TA for making it public, including a best friend Leigh and I share, are making me wonder if I actually am. So am I?"
The post blew up and people were quick to share their thoughts with many saying she was not in the wrong to defend herself.
One person wrote: "She should never have even told you this. This is not your business whatsoever, this is between her and her gross husband. She brought you into it and made it public by discussing it with other people. Putting it on Insta is no different than going around and talking behind your back…except you actually had some integrity and let her see what you were saying with no middle person."
Another commented: "Why exactly doesn't she have the balls to tell him to stop? Yeah, it's gross, but it's not your fault that her husband is a creep."
"Not your problem to manage her relationship," penned a third.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful."
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
Meanwhile a fourth said: "Why do women with straying husbands always blame the other woman instead of the husband? It’s bizarre."
"That’s weird to even suggest that you talk to him. The only thing I would’ve offer to do is block him but mostly for you cause, seriously, yuck,” claimed a fifth.
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Someone else added: “It’s her issue to sort. She took it public. You beat her at her own game."
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