My husband cheated on me with our daughter-in-law – my son has no idea, I will have to break the news to him
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A WIFE discovered that her husband’s affair was even worse than she thought when she learned who the other woman was.
The 60-year-old realised that the infidelity wasn’t just the end of her marriage but also her son’s.
In a Reddit , the woman’s sister shared the entire story of her brother-in-law’s betrayal.
She revealed that her twin had found out that her 62-year-old husband had been unfaithful.
The woman confided in her sister that is affair had happened with the wife of their eldest son.
According to the poster, the daughter-in-law had been married into the family for seven years.
She explained that her nephew is currently deployed in Germany as part of the military.
The Reddit user described the situation as a “nightmare,” explaining that her sister and brother-in-law had been together since 1976, after meeting in college.
Up until the shocking revelation, she thought that they had the “perfect” family.
“To the outside world, my sister and her husband have always been the quintessential soulmates while living the life,” she said.
She explained that her brother-in-law was not just a father to her two nieces and nephew but also played a paternal role in her own son’s life.
However, she pointed out that her close bond with her sister trumped these feelings.
“I have virtually lost my appetite and hardly slept since she broke the news to me,” she said.
The woman explained that her sister had discovered the adultery after coming across her husband’s burner phone.
“My sister is broken and can barely function and my niece, their youngest child, is due to graduate with a PhD next week and she is taking the news really badly,” she explained.
She said she felt “at a loss for words” at the news and struggled to fathom how a “loving husband, father, grandfather, uncle, and dedicated surgeon” would do such a thing.
The woman pointed out that he “threw all of that out the window by not just cheating on the woman who was there from the very beginning, but with none other than his son’s wife.”
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
The Reddit user summed up their actions as “shameful and disgusting.”
When her sister confronted him with the incriminating messages, he confessed that the affair had been going on for three months.
However, both the sisters remained sceptical if this was an accurate timeline.
To make matters even worse, the couple’s son shared two young children with his unfaithful wife.
“She hasn’t even gotten around to even asking herself if either of the grandkids, a boy and a girl, both toddlers, could actually be her husband’s,” the woman added.
And since the woman’s nephew was still deployed, he had yet to learn the shocking news.
“He doesn’t know as yet, obviously, but I don’t even want to entertain the thought of him finding out in my head just yet,” she said.
The Reddit user said she didn’t know who would be the one to break the news to him.
Other Redditors shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
“Oh my God. I’m so sorry for all of you. Double betrayal. This is terrible. I can’t imagine the emotional earthquake this must cause. I hope someone tells your nephew as soon as possible,” wrote one reader.
“What a pair of horrendous and deplorable individuals your brother-in-law and niece are. Absolutely repulsive,” agreed another person.
“They need to tell him, he can’t be the last one to find out that will make him angry at the wrong people for hiding it from him,” pointed out a third commenter.