My husband cheated on me with his own brother – they shared ‘steamy’ messages, it happened while I was in the same house
A WIFE revealed how the truth about her husband's infidelity was even worse than she had expected.
The woman noticed love bites on her partner's chest that she hadn't given him, and was shocked when she found out who did.
She described the time since she learned about her husband's disgusting behaviour as "pure hell."
The poster explained that she and her husband had been together for a total of eight years, and married for five.
One day, while she was visiting her sick mother, the woman left her husband at home.
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She pointed out that the timing of the visit lined up well as her husband was planning to celebrate his brother's birthday while she was away.
"I wished them a happy time and hoped they'd have fun," she said, adding that she "didn't think much of it."
However, she decided to come back a day earlier than she had originally planned, hoping to surprise her husband.
"I entered our house, and I heard noises, sex noises," the Reddit user wrote.
"I kind of brushed it off, thinking it was just him pleasuring himself and watching porn."
However, 20 to 30 minutes later he husband came downstairs and went "white as a ghost" at the sight of her.
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
Her husband said that he and his brother had an argument but she continued to press him for details.
"He finally relents, saying that Marcus cheated on his girlfriend and that the woman he cheated with escaped via window when they heard my car," she said.
The woman said she was still suspicious but also felt concerned about Marcus' girlfriend, who was a good friend of hers.
She also shared her confusion as to why Marcus, who lives alone, was inviting a woman over to their house.
The woman then noticed that her husband was beginning to act "very quiet, reserved, and nervous."
"When my husband took a shower, I went after him to wash my face and noticed that he too had hickeys on his chest that he tried to cover up when he saw me," she said.
"I feel sick to my stomach, and decided to go through his phone."
However, the messages that she discovered on her partner's phone were far worse than any affair she could've imagined.
"I am still reading the conversations between him and his brother when my husband comes from shower," she said.
"The conversations are explicit, the reality hit me like a ton of bricks."
Her husband tried to explain away the flirty messages as "just joking between brothers."
However, that night her husband broke down and revealed "everything" to her.
"He has a on-off relationship with his brother, they started having sex over ten years ago," she explained.
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The woman shared his suspicions that her estranged in-laws had disowned their sons over their inappropriate relationship.
"I haven't slept since the night and I don't know what to do, I can't look at my husband, and I don't know if I should tell Marcus' girlfriend about all this," she said.