My husband had an affair with my brother – it started on a trip that I paid for, I don’t know which betrayal is worse
A WOMAN revealed the shocking betrayal she uncovered after noticing a bond forming between her husband and brother.
She discovered the two men had been sneaking around behind her back for seven months.
In a Reddit , the unnamed user gave some background on her marriage as she recounted the situation.
"We’ve been married for coming up on 16 years," the poster explained.
She revealed how her brother, who is openly gay, and her husband, 42, who is bi, began their affair while on a trip together.
To make matters worse, it was the Redditor who suggested and funded the holiday.
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"Their affair started seven months ago when I invited my brother to take my place on a ski trip with my husband and our friends [as] I had Covid," she said.
"I guess they bonded on the trip and started getting closer after my brother went through his breakup and my husband 'emotionally supported him.'"
However, the 40-year-old didn't discover her husband's infidelity until her sister revealed it to her.
"I’m 100% sure they’re cheating, my little sister finally broke down and showed me a video from my brother's private Instagram story of him and his friends making fun of my husband and me," she said.
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She recalled how her 26-year-old brother was "practically bragging" about their affair.
"So I went through my husband's messages and found their conversations in his recently deleted, which were filthy," she said.
The woman said she'd "never felt more sick" and said she didn't know who to "feel more betrayed by."
She revealed that she still hadn't confronted her husband over the affair.
Reddit users shared their thoughts on the situation in the comments section.
"Don’t say anything to him at all. Go see a divorce lawyer first," advised one reader.
"I'm so sorry you're going through this. This is such a huge betrayal from both your husband and brother," said another person.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful."
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
"Don’t say anything and make your exit plan secretly. Plan everything out and expose them later trust me," commented a third Redditor.
"Call a lawyer. Makes copies and save in your email incase husband tries to delete it," said one commenter.
"I'd then send everything you have to your husband telling him how disgusting he is."
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"Don't tell him, get a divorce lawyer and follow their advice to take them to the cleaners," suggested another person.
"Don’t tell him. Back up all the documentation you’ve already found. Call a divorce lawyer," agreed one reader.
