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I trapped my husband into have a baby – he thought I was tracking my ovulation but I had baby fever and couldn’t wait
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A WOMAN has revealed that she trapped her husband into having a baby.
The 28-year-old explained that her 30-year-old man thought she was tracking her ovulation, but after experiencing major baby fever, she couldn’t wait to get pregnant.
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Eager to tell her story, the anonymous mum-to-be took to social media to reveal all, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on Reddit, on the thread, the woman titled her post ‘I trapped my husband into having a baby’.
She then explained: “My husband and I have been married for two years and we talked about having children in a couple of years.
“I have had major baby fever these last six months, and ultimately, I have been pressuring my husband to move up our timeline.
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“We both have stable jobs, a house, and a relatively good financial standing.
“He was not ready yet, and wanted our jobs more stable, a better house, and even better finances.
“After pressuring him, we decided I could go off birth control, and start trying.
“However, a couple of days later he changed his mind, and told me I need to track when my ovulation is, to ensure I don’t get pregnant, as we aren’t ready.”
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But the woman explained that she wasn’t good at tracking and they ended up having sex when she was ovulating.
She added: “I ended up getting pregnant two months later, and I wasn’t super good about tracking, or telling him, and we ended up having sex when I was ovulating.
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“I understand that this is my fault and I essentially tricked him into having a baby.
“I just don’t know what to do now.
He is bitter, resentful, and thinks I am horrible for doing this to him
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"In hindsight, I know what I did was wrong, but that obviously doesn’t change the position I am in now.
“He is bitter, resentful, and thinks I am horrible for doing this to him.”
HOW TO MOVE PAST A BIG LIE
LYING to your partner is never a great move and can cause huge issues around trust in the future, says relationship expert Kate Taylor.
But have you told a huge fib and been caught in the lie?
Here are the three things Kate says you must do . . .
- UNDERSTAND A PARTNER’S ANGER: Once a lie is uncovered, your partner is going to be furious – and rightly so. Don’t try to downplay your actions, as no good will come from hurrying to brush things under the carpet because you feel ashamed. Instead, give your partner as much time as they need to process what you have done.
- EXPLAIN YOUR REASONING: Tell your partner why you felt telling the truth wasn’t an option. It won’t undo the lie and make everything OK, but it will help them understand why you felt you couldn’t be honest.
- ADDRESS YOUR ISSUES: Lying to your partner is a way of controlling them, and control is a form of emotional abuse. If you’d presented them with the truth, they could’ve made their own decision. But the problem was that you didn’t like one of their possible choices. If you frequently lie to get your own way, you might be suffering from low self-esteem or have grown up in a strict or cold family that didn’t encourage your freedom. Talking things over with a counsellor could help you.
Keen for guidance, she asked: “Any advice on what I can do to save my marriage and create a good life for our kid?”
The woman then explained that as a result of tricking her husband, he is now “really mad”.
She admitted: “We don’t know how to move past this.”
Reddit users react
Reddit users were left open-mouthed by the woman’s claims and many flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
Not only did many slam the woman for her actions, but others encouraged the couple to seek counselling.
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One person said: “I agree with him, you are horrible for doing this to him.
"Now you’ve created a situation where he may leave you, or even worse, take his resentment out on the baby. You’re very selfish and I hope you get therapy.”
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Another added: “The only thing I see fixing this is time and couples counselling. Y’all aren’t on the same page about one of life’s most important decisions and you betrayed him, and he’s back and forth.”
A third commented: “Couples counselling immediately.”
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