My sister wants to cut & dye my wedding dress & wear it for hers – now I’m refusing to go, but our parents support her
A WOMAN has revealed how she is refusing to attend her sister’s wedding as her sibling wants to “repurpose” her own wedding gown.
The upset woman, 28, explained how she got married last year and saved up for years to buy her “dream” wedding dress.
Taking to , she explained: “It’s this beautiful lace, A-line gown with intricate beadwork and a long train. I felt like a princess and still get emotional just thinking about it.”
Now her sister, 26, is engaged and her wedding is coming up in six months time - and she has her sights on the dream dress.
The Reddit user continued: “She recently came over to our place to chat about wedding plans.
“At one point, she casually mentioned that she'd love to ‘borrow’ my dress.
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“She thinks it would be ‘cute’ to ‘repurpose’ it, maybe by shortening the skirt or even dyeing it a different colour so it’s ‘unique to her.’
“I was taken aback. I told her I wasn’t comfortable with her altering my dress, especially since it has a lot of sentimental value to me.
“She got upset and said I was being selfish because she wanted to save money on her wedding, and ‘family should support each other.”
When the elder sister held her ground, she was accused of “not caring” about her sister’s day, and the bride-to-be stormed out.
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Then the parents got involved and accused the woman of “breaking her [the younger sister’s] heart".
She continued: “They said that since I'm married and ‘done with the dress,’ it shouldn't be a big deal.
“But it is a big deal to me.
“I want to keep my dress as it is.
“They suggested I just ‘let her have her way’ to avoid family drama, but honestly, I feel like it's my dress and my decision.”
The situation got even worse when the sister declared that she now doesn’t feel comfortable with her attending the wedding at all, unless she “shows support” by giving her the dress.
The upset woman added: “I don’t want to miss her wedding, but I also don’t want to give in to something I’m not comfortable with.”
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She then asked Reddit users for their opinion on whether she was being mean by refusing to let her "repurpose" the wedding dress and considering not attending the wedding.
Many people were on her side and supported her decision.
One wrote: “It's your dress, and your sister is being unreasonable.”
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A second added: “What if you have a daughter and want to pass it to her? Unaltered. So entitled.”
A third commented: “You don’t just get to decide to claim somebody else’s sentimental property. Let alone decide to hack it up and change colours. I would refuse to go under any circumstances.”
