My boyfriend cheated with his sister-in-law while I was pregnant with his baby – now he’s left us, I’m plotting revenge
A MUM-TO-BE has been left devastated after finding out her boyfriend has been sleeping with his sister-in-law.
Most couples are over the moon when they're expecting their first baby, but this mum was spending her time plotting revenge.
The anonymous woman said she found more than enough proof of the affair to expose him.
The 35-year-old begged for advice on Reddit as she questioned whether to get revenge and expose her lover's infidelity.
After he found out she knew about the affair, he said he no longer wanted to be named on their child's birth certificate and didn't want anything to do with the child.
She explained: "I am four months pregnant (35F) and found out my partner (35M) is having an affair with both his sister-in-law and one of his coworkers. Both are married.
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"The affair with sister-in-law has been going on for two years. I have more than enough proof.
"Hotel rooms, messages, emails, and photos. (Leaving him is 100 percent happening.)"
While she clearly had made up her mind about where their relationship was heading, she revealed she was debating telling his sister-in-laws husband about the affair.
With a flurry of evidence to prove the affair has been taking place, she would have no problem convincing him of it.
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The mum-to-be continued: "He wants nothing to do with the baby now, and doesn’t want on the birth certificate, visitation or child support (he doesn’t have much say in the last part).
"Should I tell their spouses? (one being his brother)"
The Reddit post went viral and people were quick to swarm the comments with their thoughts.
Many agreed that the love rat's brother had the right to know his wife and brother had betrayed him.
One person wrote: "100 percent! They deserve to know. I’d let both affairs know about each other too but that’s just for a lil razzle dazzle."
Another commented: "Most definitely. Sorry this happened to you. You're really strong for putting your baby and your self first. Sadly, a lot of people don’t leave."
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
says: "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful."
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
"This is devastating. I’m so sorry this happened to you. I don’t know how people can be so immoral and cruel" penned a third.
"I know leaving is hard, but you’ll thank yourself later. Proud of you! Definitely DO tell the other spouses."
Meanwhile a fourth said: "Omg yes definitely tell the partners!!! Bless them, they have every right to know, I’m sorry you are going through this what a horrible situation for you."
