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I resent my third child – all she does is cling & cry, I know it’s normal toddler behaviour but I WISH I’d stopped at 2
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A WOMAN has revealed that she resents her third child and wished she'd stopped at two.
The mum-of-three explained that whilst everyone else loves her daughter, she “doesn’t like” her.
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She shared that her daughter is a typical toddler who clings and cries all day, but after working 12 hour shifts, she has been left feeling exhausted.
Keen to open up on the situation, the woman took to social media to share all, leaving many open-mouthed.
Posting on Reddit, on the thread under the username @elegent-wasabi, the tired mum titled her post ‘I regret having a third baby. Everything is worse.’
She then explained: “My husband wanted to stop at two. I wanted a bigger family.
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“Now I have a one year old, a three year old and an eight year old and I’m resentful.
"I know it’s my own fault. I know I’m a s****y parent, but I don’t like her.
“She’s a typical toddler and all the other people in our lives love her. But all she does is cling and cry.”
As a result of her toddler’s neediness, she confessed: “I can’t do anything. My house is borderline hoarder material and I’m dropping so many balls.
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“I’m so tired and I really can’t imagine a future where anything gets easier.”
The anonymous mother later set the record straight and confirmed: “I do not abuse this child. She's breastfed, she’s been vaccinated.
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“She is meeting all of her social, emotional, and physical milestones.
“I don’t speak harshly to her, touch her aggressively or unkindly or punish her.
What is postnatal depression?
Postnatal depression is a type of depression that affects parents after they have a baby.
The major depression is triggered by childbirth but is much more severe than just the "baby blues".
It can also occur following a miscarriage or stillbirth of a baby.
Many women can feel emotional and anxious after the birth of their child, commonly referred to as the “baby blues”, this will only last for a few weeks after giving birth.
If these symptoms start to last longer the that you could be suffering with postnatal depression.
The symptoms include but are not limited to: a persistent feeling of sadness, lack of enjoyment and loss of interest in the outside world, as well as your baby, and a lack of energy.
These signs can build up gradually so a lot of people don’t immediately identify that they have postnatal depression.
A number of celebrity mums have opened up about suffering from postnatal depression following giving birth.
Singer Adele has said that after the birth of her son Angelo she felt 'inadequate' and embarrassed to talk about how she was feeling.
John Legend’s wife and model Chrissy Teigen revealed she was diagnosed with postnatal depression in December after going into a downward spiral following the birth of her daughter Luna.
Gwyneth Paltrow explained she was dogged by postnatal depression after son Moses was born in 2006.
Loose Woman Stacey Solomon said she suffered from depression after the birth of her first son Zachary when she was just 18 years old.
While her co-host Andrea McLean has also talked about the condition on the programme.
Another famous face to talk about her experience is WAG Rebekah Vardy after she gave birth to son Finley with footballer husband Jamie Vardy.
Kate Middleton visited Maurice Wohl Clinical Neuroscience Institute at King’s College London to discuss postpartum depression with experts.
After speaking to scientists, the Duchess reflected on the day; although she has never explicitly claimed to have suffered with it, she said: "There's an expectation you're going to be super happy all the time, and one in four of us aren't."
Melanie Hughes, former Miss Wales and Corrie actress tragically passed away in October 2017 due to her heavy drinking, linked to her post natal depression.
“I read to her, play with her, feed and bathe her. As long as someone is directly interacting with her, she’s happy.”
She opened up on her exhaustion and birth complications, as she added: “I work two 12 hour shifts a week (Saturday and Sunday) and my husband works 9-5. He does parenting but almost no chores. We make the same amount of money.
I love her. And I resent her
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“I was also in the ICU from day three to eight of her life from birth complications and significantly impaired for about three months after birth.
“The nurses helped me pump breast milk while I was intubated.
“It’s not that I’m unwilling to make sacrifices for this child. I love her. And I resent her.”
REDDIT USERS REACT
Reddit users were left open-mouthed by the mother’s confession and flocked to the comments to share their thoughts.
Many were incredibly supportive and advised her to seek help and get assessed for postpartum depression.
It gets better. It may be overwhelming now, but parenthood often is
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One person said: “You might get evaluated for postpartum depression. Even at a year old, you could be dealing with it.
“I remember being VERY overwhelmed after my second, and once I got help, it was so much easier. All moms dislike their kids sometimes. They aren’t likeable all the time!!.”
Another added: “Working two long shifts and breastfeeding is no joke!! I feel like it's really understandable to be overwhelmed. Sounds like you need some additional support and rest.”
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A third commented: “Came here to SAY THIS. I HAD POSTPARTUM and this is a classic case, I felt the exact same way. Please please get help, it's not you. It's chemical!”
Whilst someone else explained: “It gets better. It may be overwhelming now, but parenthood often is. You’ll look back on this day in a few years and probably miss it. You can do this.”
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