My fiance was cheating on me with a FRIEND – I quit my job, ghosted him & got the best revenge, but he says I’m childish
A WOMAN has revealed that her fiance was cheating on her with a mutual friend, so she made sure to get the ultimate revenge.
The frustrated woman explained that she realised that her partner, who she had been with for four years, was being unfaithful, after scrolling through his phone.
As a result, she got her comeuppance by clearing out all of the money she had added into their joint account, packed up and left.
Sharing her story on social media, the woman confessed all on the thread, under the username @PeakAfraid330.
The anonymous 27-year-old titled her post ‘AITA for ghosting my cheating fiance?’ and confessed that she dated her ex fiance Jonathan, 29, for four years, and they had been engaged for a couple of months.
She explained: “It was a good relationship, and I truly thought we would spend the rest of our lives together, but I guess I was just too naive to see the truth.
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“To keep it short, I found out he had been cheating on me with a mutual friend for a couple of months, and that group of friends in particular were covering up his affair.
“They were all acting strange, so I went through his phone and I found out they had a separate group where they even made fun of me for not realising.
“I was furious, and my first impulse was to berate them all. However, I ended up deciding to just disappear from their lives. Any confrontation was clearly a waste of time with these people.”
The Reddit user explained that she made sure to get her revenge, as she added: “When he went to work the next day, I packed everything I owned, took all the money I put on our joint account (which was a lot, since we were paying for our wedding, we were planning a good honeymoon and wanted to buy a house).
"I blocked them from everywhere, put my accounts on private, changed my number and I went back to my hometown and stayed with my mum and stepdad.
“I was so mad I even left my job right away.
“I told my friends and family what had happened, and then I decided to go on a big trip with some of the money I had put on our joint account.
“I left for three months, I had the time of my life and came back home two months ago.
“I was able to get a job here, and I decided to start dating again.
“It's nothing serious, but I have been seeing this nice guy for about a month. I'm just trying to put my life back on track.”
Four red flags your partner is cheating
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
But after spending time focusing on herself, the woman continued: “Anyway, recently my family and friends are telling me that my ex and our ex-mutual friends are bombarding them with texts on social media.
“They apparently want to know where I am and are asking how I'm doing, and they are saying what I did was childish and I should just talk to them at least.
“I have no intention of this, for me, it's a closed phase of my life, and I literally did nothing at all, I just left.
“They will never see my face again or hear from me, and I told my close circle to just block or ignore them.”
REDDIT USERS REACT
Reddit users rushed to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation - with many praising her ‘classy’ response.
One person said: “What YOU are doing is CHILDISH?? They concealed an affair and mocked you for not realising it, and YOU are the childish one?? Go live your better life.”
You did the perfect thing! You brought your A game!
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Another added: “This is classy as f**k. No response at all is a perfect response.
"They are dying to try to explain themselves, and you denying them that opportunity is amazing. Sending you all the best for your upcoming chapter in your life.”
A third commented: “Although I’m usually against ghosting in general, this is about the best reason to do so.
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"You’re obviously punishing them all and they feel guilty by just disappearing. Good luck and God bless moving forward.”
Whilst someone else expressed: “You know what? You did the perfect thing! You brought your A game! I’m proud of you!!”