Bride tells wedding guests to ‘jog on’ if they don’t agree with her 16 rules & people are desperate to ‘save’ the groom
People were quick to chime in with their views
A BRIDE has left people wanting to “save” her groom after listing her 16 strict rules she has for guests attending her wedding.
The woman uploaded her requirements for attendees and said they could “jog on” if they didn’t comply, leaving many saying they’d be “too anxious” to attend.
On her account, she wrote: “Our wedding rules, let me know if there are any useful ones I should add.
“We ask that you honour our requests so that our guests, family, staff and ourselves are respected and happy on our day.”
The first on the list was a ban on “arguing” and she said anyone that didn’t follow this would be “escorted out”, no matter their relation to the bride and groom.
The second rule was a ban on “abuse” towards staff or guests, and also to be careful of any “damages”, although she realised that “accidents do happen.”
She added: “Any bad intent will not take place on our day.”
The bride’s next gripe was with photos.
She wrote that there would be a ban on posting photos before sending them for approval with her first.
The bride added: “I don’t want any unflattering photos I don’t approve of.”
Guests were also reminded about what to wear, with her stating the dress code is “comfortable and classy”.
She wrote: “Please don’t dress inappropriately. This is a wedding not a nightclub.”
There was even a ban on certain coloured outfits on her special day, with “bright colours prohibited”.
This was because she is aiming for a “minimalist” look for the day, with only neutrals or black ensembles allowed.
She added that she doesn’t want to be “that bride” but reminded guests that white was banned.
On her video, she stated that gifts would be appreciated but weren’t mandatory, and said there would be a contribution box on the day.
Her ninth rule was to ban people making a joke during the part of the ceremony when the officiant says “speak now or forever hold your peace.”
The bride reminded people that the guest list is “invite only” and informed people that they would be arriving at the reception alone before guests arrive.
She explained: “We’re the guests of honour not hosts and there are certain things we’d like to do alone.”
Tied in with this was rule 12, which was a request for “privacy” at her sweetheart dining table, which is a small table for just the bride and groom.
The bride added: “If we’re eating or sitting down please be patient. We’re taking the time to enjoy our day together. We will come find you!”
The next requests included not drinking too much, to say goodbye before leaving the wedding and to be quiet if arriving late.
Are wedding rules right or wrong?
By Josie Griffiths, Fabulous deputy editor and bride-to-be
When I was planning my wedding this August, the idea of sending out a list of ‘rules’ never once popped into my mind.
The first two this bride created seem fair enough, but also like they should be common sense, and then they just descend into chaos.
Insisting on “approving” all photos before they go out and ordering guests to stick to a “minimalist” colour palette seems pretty OTT to me.
And rudely telling guests to leave you alone when you arrive at the ceremony and eat your dinner – while also ordering them to come say goodbye before leaving – is a bit mad.
I don’t know how many guests this bride is inviting, but everyone knows weddings can get a bit manic. Of course it’d be nice to greet and say goodbye to everyone personally, but I’ve come to peace with the fact that probably won’t happen.
Like with everything in life, once you get yourself in a tizz about everything happening a certain way, you’re basically setting yourself up for failure.
I don’t pretend to be the most laid-back bride ever and I can’t promise I won’t get a bit stressed if we’re running loads behind on the morning of my wedding, but this is just massively over the top.
I agree with the commenters, I wouldn’t bother going.
The final rule was to not get in the way of the photographer during the day.
She finished off by saying: “Most of these are just respectful behaviour.
“If you feel like I’m being a little over the top or you just don’t agree with our wishes then kindly uninvite yourself and jog on.
“There will be no negative vibes on our day.”
Her video has racked up over 1,500 likes, but certainly caused a stir.
One person said: “Who is joining me to save Daniel?”
Another added: “I’d be to anxious to turn up”, to which the bride responded: “Must be so difficult to just turn up to a free event.”
A third chimed in: “I’ve uninvited myself and jogged on. Can’t say the rest of the family will be as kind once they’ve read the rules!”
A fourth joked: “I’d be posting all the unflattering photos, something I would never do if I hadn’t been told not to.”
