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I have 40 ex lovers but told my husband it was way less – we’ve been married for 3 months but it feels like 100 years
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A WOMAN who has been married to her husband for just three months has told how it feels like "100 years" - and the pair are already considering divorce.
For many newlyweds, the first few months after their big day still feels like the honeymoon period, as they prepare to embark on a lifetime of love and happiness together.
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But that couldn't be further from the truth for Miranda and Donny, whose arguing has got so bad, they're already considering an annulment.
Not to mention the fact that Donny has been left horrified after finding out Miranda lied about the amount of lovers she'd slept with before they tied the knot.
"The honeymoon ended the second that we got to Cancun, Mexico," Donny explains, speaking on US talk show Dr Phil.
"She cried continually and she wanted to go home.
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"Miranda and I have been married for three months and we're already talking about annulment or a divorce."
He goes on to say that the main problems he sees in their marriage is "affection, intimacy, commitment," before claiming that she's "very, very selfish."
Miranda and I have been married for three months and we're already talking about annulment or a divorce
Donny
And things aren't much better from Miranda's point of view either, with her noting that she feels like the pair didn't have a honeymoon period altogether.
Instead, she says it feels they've been married "100 years."
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As for their sex life, Donny says it's a "very touchy subject" and that while his wife "likes to get it over and done with," he'd "like to enjoy each other."
However, straight-talking Miranda admits: "Our sex life sucks."
Considering all of this, it's little surprise Dr Phil is eager to know why the pair got married in the first place.
"I love him," Miranda says. "He's had people in his past leave him before and he thought the whole time that I was going to leave him.
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"Being married, I really thought that would give him a sense of security."
She goes onto admit that if she could find other things to do outside of their marriage, such as getting a second job, it'd "make it easier" for her to deal with their marriage.
A shocked Dr Phil asks whether that means if she can distract herself it'd make her able to "tolerate" her husband better, to which she admits: "Yes."
But that's not the only issues in the couple's marriage.
Donny, who tied the knot with Miranda in May, claims that he saw an email from Miranda's ex which said: "You're always in my thoughts and I'll cherish all the times I spent with you."
While he admits seeing that email "really bothers" him, Miranda insists she had "no intentions" with the man in question.
But Dr Phil is quick to point out that when Miranda and Donny were dating, she allegedly cheated on him.
I'm just completely...40? It's like grabbing my heart and you're squeezing and I don't understand
Donny
Setting the record straight, she argues that from her perspective, the pair got into a fight and broke up and she went to a motel with somebody else.
However, as far as Donny is concerned, they hadn't split up at all.
"She said she was going to spend the rest of the night with her family," he recalls.
"I come to find out after we got engaged... she finally spilled the whole truth of what happened that evening."
Speaking of the incident that took place two years ago, Miranda admits she was hoping something would happen with the other guy in question and that she'd be able to get out of her relationship with Donny.
Dr Phil then dropped the bombshell that Miranda only got back with Donny when the previous boyfriend said "no" - something which her husband wasn't aware of.
Donny goes on to say how his wife also "hates" sex but insists it's nothing to do with him.
Explaining her take on the topic, Miranda points out that they both made the decision to be intimate together before they got married, which made her feel "guilty" because of the way she was raised.
I told him that I had made some choices in my past that I was not proud of
Miranda
"I knew that you weren't supposed to be having sex before you were married, but we made that decision," she explains.
"So I thought getting married was going to feel OK."
However, Dr Phil is quick to raise an issue with Miranda's suggestion that she was uncomfortable having sex out of wedlock.
He adds Miranda told Donny she'd had sex with 27 different partners before they got married, before asking: "And didn't you tell our producers that it was actually 40?"
While Miranda insists she didn't ever tell her husband a "specific number," she continues: "I told him that I had made some choices in my past that I was not proud of.
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Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it's normal to know each other's passwords and use each other's phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
says "If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful."
"You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something."
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
"If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don't want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag."
"Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it's an easy way to get caught out," says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner's libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says "Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren't there before."
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
"To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven't walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating," warns Aaron.
"I fell into this trap of, I did it with him once, felt bad, and then I just wanted a guy to like me."
But a teary-eyed Donny claims he's showed Miranda "nothing but love," only to find out "lies upon lies."
On hearing the revelation for the first time, he puts his head in his hands and says: "I'm just completely... 40? It's like grabbing my heart and you're squeezing and I don't understand."
In response to Dr Phil's comment, Miranda replies: "I don't like admitting that.
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"I don't like saying that number. I don't want to tell anyone, but that's not who I am today.
"I made that decision and I made plenty of wrong decisions in my past, and I made that decision to go with that other guy two years ago."
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