I’m cute but I’ve been single my whole life – ghosting seems shallow but I do it, a man said he loved me after 3 hours

WHILE many of her peers are getting married and having children, one woman has still never had a relationship.

LA-based model and influencer Hope Schwing, 25, says finding love isn't necessarily easy just because you're hot.

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With over 10 million TikTok followers, has a surplus of admirers but has never settled down with one.

"I’m emotionally stunted for sure," she told The U.S. Sun in an exclusive interview.

She equated her dating experience to the same level as that of a "fricking 15-year-old."

"It's very, very hard for me to trust that it's the right guy," she admitted.

Hope is still on the dating apps, sex-positive in particular, but said that it's more of an "ego boost" to see who likes her.

"I had a guy tell me that he loved me after three hours of chatting," she said.

"That was really weird. That actually severely freaked me out. I blocked him afterwards. We'd never even been on a date."

Hope went viral on TikTok after posting a video where she claimed she was "too hot to have a boyfriend."

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Explaining it was satire, Hope told us there was some truth to it.

"I don't think I'm too hot for a boyfriend, but I know I'm cute. I probably scare men away," she said.

Hope said she has to be "realistic" and will probably go through heartbreak at some point, but a fear of being hurt holds her back.

Aside from declaring their love too soon, her biggest "ick" is chewing with your mouth open.

Hope says she often has to "convince herself" she even likes the man she is chatting to.

She hasn't had many official dates - with her dating app use only resulting in one dinner - and says she loves being single too much to stress about it.

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 "I value my time so much. Talking phases are not even a big deal to most people, but to me, they are because I do not let myself get emotionally vulnerable with guys," she said.

"That means much more than hooking up or kissing someone or any of the physical stuff."

Hope added: "Being single is fun and easy. I can do whatever I want and just be my independent self."

Because her walls are up, Hope is easily turned off by the quickest thing, and her boundaries are set from the beginning.

And while she's been ghosted less than a handful of times, Hope isn't shy about doing it to others.

I feel the emotional connection of it ten times more."

Hope SchwingOn Talking Stages

If a guy doesn't reach out to plan another date or try to stay in touch, then Hope said that's a way of "the trash taking itself out itself."

"Sometimes I feel kinda bad when I ghost, but for real these guys really don’t get the hint sometimes," she said.

"I know it sucks and it seems shallow, but it is literally so hard for me to explicitly say, 'I don’t wanna talk to you anymore.'

"I’d rather the guy not like me ghosting than me hurt his feelings by saying I am not interested."

Hope says she will "cut all ties" if she spots a repeated red flag.

"I'm not gonna take any of the BS," she said.

"If a guy will do one thing that pings my radar, that's a red flag.

"Then if it happens again, honestly, I will literally just leave. I'll cut all ties."

Her reasons for "dropping a guy" could be as simple as not liking her cats.

Another one of her biggest turn-offs about modern dating is when men don't plan proper dates, instead asking to just "hang out."

"I love texting. I love FaceTime. I love talking to someone, but I also would like to see them in person right now and do something. I think a date and hanging out are two different things completely," she said.

"I feel like guys nowadays tell you to come over and watch a movie or something and think that's a date."

I’m just too hot to have a boyfriend."

Hope SchwingOn why she's still single

Hope thinks FaceTime is so good for dating, especially if you have difficult schedules and want to make time for each other.

"I feel the emotional connection of it ten times more," she said.

She admitted that she has a very relaxed work schedule as an influencer, but at the same time, she said that if you genuinely like someone, it takes two seconds to check in.

"Everyone has time to send a text, and if you can't give me two seconds then you're out. Quality time, whether it's through the phone, or if it's in person, I need that," she explained.

That leads to a massive dating pet peeve for Hope is the lack of effort by men to make her happy and instead take her for granted.

That could mean hanging out with his friends too much and putting me on the back burner.

"We’re in our mid-twenties. 'Bros before hoes' isn’t going to get you anywhere at this age," she said.

A massive problem she's encountered with a large online following is men who are incredibly possessive of her during a talking phase.

"When you're talking to someone who does do social media, you're gonna get weirdos that try to talk to your girl," she explained.

"I think a woman who might take care of herself and is independent, successful, and confident in who she is, that's what guys say they want but then they never go for those women."

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Hope is still optimistic that her perfect match is out there and has him picked out in her head.

After prioritizing her wellness and undergoing a "huge fitness journey" where she lost 70 lbs, she is looking for an ideal partner to work out with.

In her mind, he's "tall, tatted, funny, and charismatic" because she "can’t stand nonchalant guys."

"I like it when a guy is needy honestly. I will literally take care of him," she said.

Her top qualities are someone who is family-oriented and ";sensitive" to her sensitive emotions.

Whoever she ends up deciding to date, her end goal is marriage.

"I think that’s why I haven’t actually gotten into a relationship because I haven’t met anyone yet that I could marry," she said.

"I think I am mature enough I'm just not experienced enough and whoever that guy is, he's gonna have to be really patient with me."

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So for now, she's choosing to have fun and let loose until she actually meets someone she could see herself settling down with.

"The time will come when I find the right guy, but until then I’m just doing what I want," she said.

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