My brother’s partner dressed inappropriately when my dad was dying in hospital, she’ll wear a skimpy dress to my wedding
A BRIDE-TO-BE was already worrying over what her brother's partner might wear to her upcoming wedding.
And she had good reason to be concerned about a potential dress code disaster.
"He’s my little bro, I’m asking him to walk me down the aisle because our father passed a month ago today - RIP dad," said ().
The future bride just didn't want to be left bewildered on her big day.
"He’s been with his girlfriend for several years now and she has a habit of dressing skimpily/not for the occasion," she explained.
She detailed an even more sensitive time when her brother's significant other had made a major misjudgment on acceptable attire.
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And it had happened more than once.
"For example, she showed up in a mini skirt so short the whole room saw her undies to visit my dad while he was dying in the hospital. Twice," she said.
The engaged user weighed her options over how to handle the wardrobe situation.
"She doesn’t get along with our family really, and I don’t know if it’s worth it for me to send dress ideas to her since she and I aren’t close and she hates being told what to do," she explained.
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Still, she didn't want anything she deemed tasteless or tacky to ruin her pictures.
"I know she’s going to be in our wedding photos and it’s not the end of the world, but I’m dreading her showing up in something skimpy or too light as she’s very 'look at me.'"
She just wanted to find a solution that wouldn't require excluding her from anything in an attempt to avoid a rift between her and her brother.
She looked to other users for guidance over the potentially scandalous situation.
"Advice? Do I suck it up and crop her out of the pics if she does show up in something inappropriate? Dress code is cocktail and I have a feeling she’s going to rock up in a clubbing dress," she said.
The bride-to-be also clarified that she was not hosting any bridal parties or getting married in a church.
And users did not shy away from giving their opinions.
"Are you using a professional photographer? At my brother’s wedding, the photographer was really good at saying 'okay now significant others can come up and join!'.
"I was in the bridal party and my fiancé only ended up in two group photos - which seems perfectly appropriate - so I think she’ll only be in so few photos," this user explained.
"We are. That’s a good idea, I’ve already had to warn the photographer, DJ, planner, florist that my mother will try to make it into her day lol," she replied.
"Also, ask the photographer to place her in the background of any photos, with someone in front of her blocking everything except her face," this Reddit user suggested.
"Ask the photographer to take several photographs of just family, then some that include her. You don’t have to print or keep the ones with her in them," another chimed in.
"Yes! We have a few photos with just my parents and brother and then a few that include his then-girlfriend, now-fiancée.
"I felt pretty confident that she was going to wind up an official member of our family sooner or later but it was good to have options!" another user shared her thoughts.
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According to marthastewart.com, inappropriate wedding guest attire includes wearing white, being too casual, donning anything too flashy and outfits that are overly revealing.
This includes exposed skin and plunging necklines.
