I always wear make up and do my hair before taking my kids to school and I’m never late or stressed – ALL mums can do it
WHEN Rosey Davidson drops her kids off at the school gate, she does not have a hair out of place.
The immaculate mum of three has already made sure her children have done their homework and eaten a healthy breakfast — and there is no chance of a crucial book being left behind.
But while Rosey, who has kids aged ten, seven and two, makes motherhood look effortless, she says any parent can do what she does.
In a new survey, 97 per cent of mums said they feel pressure to “do it all and be it all”, while #perfectparenting is trending with over 2.4million views on TikTok.
But child sleep consultant , who never arrives a minute late or forgets a school event and says she is often asked how she does it by other mums, believes it is all about time management.
Echoing influencer Molly-Mae Hague’s comments on being successful, she says: “We’ve all got the same 24 hours in the day, it’s not as though I’ve got an extra one.
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"I know Molly-Mae was criticised and I acknowledge everyone has different challenges - you need to look at what you’ve got to do, when it needs to be done, and plan accordingly.
“I’m lucky in that I’ve got a supportive husband and parents, but I’ve also got three children and a full-time job to juggle — I manage three other people.
“And I work hard to make it all run smoothly. It’s what works for our family.
“Other mums call me perfect, saying I don’t know how you do everything and keep it all together.
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"But there’s no such thing really.”
Rosey, who lives with husband Daniel, 44, a commercial director, in Barnet, North London, admits it has taken time to achieve.
She says: “It’s taken me years to get to this stage.
"The key is planning, prioritising and recognising the non-negotiables, like school pick-up time.
“We also have a rigid routine. My day is timetabled out to the half hour.
"I even put in 15-minute breaks to take a walk and clear my head.
“And my husband and I have two briefings a day, morning and evening, to check we both know what’s happening.
"He never complains. It makes his life easier.
“It works for my family, so like it or lump it. It’s me that’s living it, and I’m not imposing it on anyone else.”
Rosey believes in “me time” and physical fitness for health, so will go to the gym or exercise at least three times a week.
She won’t leave the house without make-up on and her hair brushed, and says: “I’d never take the children to school without having my shower, doing my skincare routine and putting on basic make-up.
“I don’t want to walk out of the door without looking presentable.
"We have to set an example to our children that we respect ourselves and our working day.
“While I don’t judge other mothers, and if it works for them then fine, I would never turn up unwashed in last night’s pyjamas.
“I don’t believe it when people say they don’t have time to get dressed and brush their hair.
“It’s like saying you don’t have time to eat, because you do.”
Rosey gives her children responsibility from an early age, doling out tasks.
She says: “They know they need to clear up their plates after a meal and tidy their toys.
“I get them involved in sorting the laundry and they take their piles upstairs and put them away.
"It’s another way of instilling boundaries and expectations.
"They also know they need to get up, brush their teeth, get dressed and eat breakfast in order.
“They get their own shoes and coats ready and I’ll lay out their uniforms and sort their school bags the night before — that way there isn’t a rush.
“For me, it’s an important part of their upbringing to get them involved in how running a house works.
“If you get them involved early on then you set them up for life.
"All children are happy to do it, you have to frame it in a positive way and say, ‘Come and help Mummy do the washing’ when they are toddlers.
“Children thrive on having boundaries.
"When they know what they are doing, they feel safe and secure.
"If you don’t have structure, for example meal times and bedtimes, life can become chaotic.
“My children go to school rested, relaxed and ready for the day because there’s no panicking.”
Rosey gets up at 7am and is usually in bed by 11pm, though if she is particularly busy with work she will stay up later.
She starts her day by checking what needs to be done and then prioritising and time- tabling.
Food is planned out three days in advance and she and Daniel will work out who is cooking.
She says: “By planning our meals there’s much less food waste.
“When you have leftovers, parents should decide whether they’re going to eat it the following day, or if not, then put it in the freezer.
“If you don’t know what you’re having then you can end up frantically buying something that’s far more expensive.”
Rosey, who runs website Just Chill Baby Sleep and counts fitness expert Joe Wicks and ex-Big Brother winner Kate Lawler among her clients, has been trolled in the past after posting about her parenting ethos.
But she says: “I’m not saying this is what you should do, but what you could do to make your life run more smoothly.
“Not everyone wants to be like me, and that’s fine.
“But people ask me how I do it and are in awe that I have three children, have a busy job and I’m not stressed out.
“And this is how I do it. I’m not Superwoman but I am super-organised.
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“Children thrive on stability, predictability and routine. Otherwise, they can be anxious.
“They need a solid foundation at home — and that’s your job.”
