I’m a divorce coach – the 10 things your partner does that show he could be cheating on you

IF your man has been acting a bit odd recently and you aren’t sure why, it could mean that he is cheating on you.

We spoke to divorce coach , to identify the ten things your partner does that could indicate that he is cheating on you.

So if you’ve been having doubts for a while about your man’s loyalty, you’ll want to listen up.

Sarah explained to Fabulous: “Here are some indications that your partner could be cheating. But it’s more about noticing changes in their behaviour and your relationship and above all, trusting your instinct. 

“Our gut instinct is often right, and our gut is sometimes known as our second brain. 

“It may not even be anything obvious, but you just notice subtle changes in behaviour or there’s something you can’t quite put your finger on. 

“Our gut feelings come from patterns we’ve identified from our past experiences and our subconscious mind continually processes information that we’re not consciously aware of. 

“Just because you may have noticed one of the things in the list below – don’t jump to any conclusions – look at everything together.”

They’ve withdrawn from you 

If you and your partner are spending less time together, this could potentially indicate that your partner is up to something.

Sarah pointed out the warning signs to look out for as she explained: “Maybe you’ve stopped socialising together or doing activities that you previously enjoyed together. 

“They may have started socialising more with friends, suddenly have a new friend they’re spending time with or start talking more about a colleague at work. 

“Perhaps they’ve stopped asking you how your day was or what you’ve been up to and show no interest in your life. 

“There’s little conversation between you anymore and the banter between you has gone. 

“They don’t tell you they love you anymore and all the affection has stopped.” 

They’re taking more interest in their appearance

Not only this, but according to Sarah, if your partner is suddenly taking more interest in their clothes and how they’re dressing - whereas previously they barely looked in the mirror -  this could definitely be a red flag that they aren’t being faithful.

Sarah noted: “Maybe they’ve splashed out and bought new clothes which are more trendy or different to their normal style. 

“They’re taking a lot more care about how they dress and taking longer to get ready. 

“It could be that they’re trying to impress someone.”

They’re exercising more 

If your man has been taking more interest in his body and has been hitting the gym much more than usual, you may want to investigate.

According to Sarah, this could mean that they are cheating, as she added: “Perhaps they’ve just joined a gym for the first time, exercising more than usual, or have hired a personal trainer.  

“Are they concerned about their weight and more careful about their diet and what they eat - whereas previously they wouldn’t give it a second thought?” 

They’re working longer hours and staying away more 

If your partner has all of a sudden started working longer hours and has been going on ‘work’ trips, this could mean that something behind the scenes is occurring, particularly if there hasn’t been a change in their job role. 

Sarah continued: “It feels like they don’t want to spend any time at home, and when they are away, you don’t hear from them, or you can’t reach them. 

“There may be periods in the day or evening that you can’t get hold of them, for no apparent reason, or you find their phone turned off when you try to call.” 

They’re more interested in your movements 

Another indicator that your partner may be exploring someone else is if they have become more interested in your activities and your daily routine.

The divorce coach noted: “This could be an indication that they’re trying to plan in some time with someone else whilst you’re not around as it saves them having to make excuses.” 

They’re more secretive 

Being secretive is never a good thing and according to this relationship expert, if they’re permanently attached to their phone and have changed the passcode, things might not be looking good.

When it comes to a cheating man’s phone habits, Sarah shared the signs to be aware of: “They take it [their phone] everywhere with them and this is a change in behaviour. 

“They’re taking calls at odd times of the day and stepping outside to speak. 

“Maybe they’ve changed the password on their computer. 

“Is your gut telling you that they’re trying to hide something from you?”

There’s a change to your sex life 

If you’ve noticed changes in your sex life, this could also scream guilt.

Sarah recognised: “You previously had an active sex life that’s dwindled lately, or your partner is showing no interest in you sexually and making excuses. 

“Or it could also be that your partner suddenly wants to have more sex and has become more adventurous.” 

They’re taking more cash out or spending more than normal 

If your partner’s spending habits have changed and they haven’t got a plausible explanation for it, you might want to start asking questions. 

Sarah noted that your partner may be cheating if there is a change in their spending habits, which according to her “could be a sign of going for more meals, buying gifts, or paying for hotels with cash.” 

You’ve caught them out in a lie 

If you’ve found out that your man has been lying to you, this could flag that he’s being unfaithful.

Sarah explained: “Explanations they’ve given you don’t ring true or stack up. They’re having to lie to cover up the cheating. 

“You’ve caught them lying about something and then they’ve become defensive or angry when you’ve brought it up (because they’ve been caught out). 

“Often when people are telling lies, they will elaborate the story and give a lot more detail than is necessary to try and make them believable. 

“They may gas light you and make you feel like it’s all in your head.”

They’re over-compensating 

Finally, according to Sarah, if your man has been putting in more effort than ever before, this could actually be a bad sign.

The divorce coach explained: “It may be that they’re showing you more attention than normal and being more affectionate, helping more with the household chores, or buying you flowers and gifts for no reason, which is a change to their normal behaviour. 

“The guilt of the affair could be making them over-compensate in the other areas of their life.” 

Sarah concluded: “If your gut is telling you something is off, and there are some of the signs above, then it could be worth a conversation with your partner to hopefully put your mind at rest. 

“Pick the right place and moment to have this conversation when there are no other distractions. 

“Try not to be accusatory but tell them what you’ve noticed and how you’re feeling and see what they have to say.”