I’m a sexpert – 30 tips to kickstart your sex life including unusual breakfast that boosts libido & 3-minute turn on

SUMMER'S over and the kids have finally gone back to school - what better time to spice up your sex life?

Between running around after your little terrors and trying to keep cool during the heatwaves, it's likely you've struggled to find time to get busy in the bedroom.

Sexpert Kate Taylor says it's completely normal to experience a drop in libido during the summer holidays.

Now, as the mercury drops and household peace is restored, she shares her 30 tops tips to reignite passion between the sheets.

SNOG FOR 3 MINUTES

Begin your 'Sextember' by snogging your partner for three minutes to dissolve relationship tension and boost your bonding hormones. Gently bite their bottom lip and suck their top lip.

INTERIOR DESIGN

Sexify your bedroom by adding candles, extra pillows, and silky satin sheets.

Declutter and clean, then add a Saucy Suggestion Box where you can both add sexy ideas to try out.

DITCH THE ROUTINE

Have normal sex at an unusual time. Just shifting to an early-morning lie-on (or afternoon delight) can get you out of your rut and make standard sex feel fresh.

PUBLIC SEDUCTION

Have spicy pillow talk in a public place. Discuss your filthiest fantasies while shopping together or grabbing coffee.

See who can keep their hands to themselves the longest.

HAVE A ROCKET SALAD

According to science, the humble rocket lettuce leaf can super-charge men’s testosterone and block environmental contaminants that can dull our libidos.

So, who's up for a salad tonight?

SHOWER SEX

Scrub up your routine by getting frisky in the bath or shower.

Not only is bathroom bonking frantic, fun and frisky, but sharing a tub means you’re doing your bit for the drought.

FANTASY LEAGUE

Swap fantasies. Tell each other your hottest role-play scenario or fantasy you’d love to come true.

You’ll bring them to life for each other in week four, so start gathering any costumes or props.

LUST LIST

Draw up a list together of the kinkiest activities you can imagine.

Then each say whether each one is a Yes (I’m up for that), No (I’m not) or a Maybe.

WATCH TV NAKED

Throw a blanket on the sofa then snuggle up to watch a film together – starkers.

The skin-to-skin contact will boost your oxytocin (the bonding hormone) and increase feelings of arousal.

DOUBLE TROUBLE

Double the fun by fitting in TWO sexy episodes of full sex, or climactic foreplay.

Discover how many hours in the day you have for sex when you prioritise it. 

BUY NEW UNDERWEAR

Lacklustre underwear makes you lack lust. Spice up your smalls by buying a few new pieces for you and for him.

Model them tonight with a striptease.  

CINNAMON BUNS

Warm, spicy cinnamon is a powerful aphrodisiac.

Wake up your partner with cinnamon coffee and a hot cinnamon roll, and see what happens.

PLEASURE HIM

It’s all about him today. Bring him to climax in his favourite way.

Don’t worry – you’ll get your come-uppance.

QUICKIE TIME

Have sex in the fastest possible time.

Cut straight to the good part and aim to finish in five minutes or less.

SUPPLEMENT YOUR SEX LIFE

Noticed flagging libidos at home? Find out why.

Check the side-effects of any medication, and then try some natural remedies, like Maca Root powder, Ginseng or Ginko Bilboa.

YOU'RE IN CHARGE

He’s your slave tonight and must do anything you need to bring you to an earth-moving climax - whether that’s passionate sex or just cleaning the oven.

COSY SEX

Energy flagging? Try a slow, comfy position, like Sofa Surfer.

He lies back on the sofa, you sit on top of him, at a 90 degree angle, feet on the floor. Bliss.

MASSAGE

How far this goes is up to you.

Warm some coconut oil and massage each other for at least 20 minutes, gradually building up to a happy ending – sex, snuggling, or just sleep.

READ ALL ABOUT IT

Women are highly aroused by words and sounds.

Listen together to free erotic short stories on Literotica.com, or read out your sexiest passages from books.

PERIOD POINTS

Even if you don’t have periods, there’ll be times during the month when you feel extra saucy, or moody and tired.

Start keeping a diary of your libido so you can learn what kills the mood, or when you’re most likely to enjoy great sex.

SOLO FUN

Take an evening to enjoy what turns YOU on.

Dig out your favourite toy or try a new position while you put the moves on yourself. You can do this mutually, or solo.

SEXT-TEMBER

Bombard your partner with fun, flirty, filthy messages.

Surprise them on Skype by showing up naked. Or leave them a lusty love note listing what turns you on about them.

COCK-TAIL

Mix up a cocktail that harnesses the aphrodisiac qualities of chili and pineapple.

I call it the ASBO. Split one chilli In half and remove the seeds.

Muddle it in a shaker with a measure of vodka and 125ml pineapple juice. Add ice, shake, and serve in bed.

ACT OUT YOUR FANTASY

Remember the fantasy I told you to tell your partner about? Bring it to life.

Use costumes or props to set the scene and stay in character even when passion takes over.  

ACT OUT HIS FANTASY

Time to make your partner’s sexy dream come true.

Become their favourite character or set up their ideal scenario and enjoy the power of deeply turning them on.

BUY A NAUGHTY TOY

Browse a sex-toy website together and choose a new toy.

Simple bullet vibrators can be powerful on both of you, or try a buzzing ring to wear during sex.

BLOW HOT AND COLD

Try temperature play. Use toys that have been chilled in the fridge, along with a warming, tingly oil.

EROTIC MOVIE NIGHT

Play your favourite filthy films for each other - whether a Hollywood one, or an X-rated clip - then discuss exactly why it turns you on.

Bonus points if you re-enact the hottest scene!

CALENDAR GIRLS

Don’t let the good times fizzle out next month.

Look back on your favourite activities from the past 30 days, and schedule them in for October.

BIG BANG

End the month with agonisingly slow sex. Enjoy five minutes of snogging, and a minimum of 20 minutes’ foreplay.

By increasing the action beforehand, you’ll heighten your arousal and experience a much more powerful finish. Have fun!