My girlfriend is pregnant and acting like she has nothing to prepare for – I’m stressed financially and she won’t help
A SOON-to-be dad has shared how overwhelmed he felt getting things ready for the baby while all his girlfriend would do is spend more of their money.
The 23-year-old man said whenever he would bring up the excessive spending to his girlfriend, she claimed he was being insensitive.
"This was an unplanned pregnancy but a pregnancy nonetheless," he began on Reddit.
"We found out in January and I’ve been making game plans ever since.
"I’m excited and love my girlfriend so I'm willing to do whatever it takes to make all of us comfortable and happy.
"I work a full-time job as a mechanic. I work six days a week, 11-and-a-half hour days, and she nanny’s six days a week.
"She and I have had so many talks about needless spending and saving as much as we can so we’re well equipped for our child when he/she arrives.
"So half of my paycheck every week is going into savings and the rest is used for bills and necessities like gas, and groceries."
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"She sees that I’m pretty overwhelmed and that I’m stressing out about the money aspect of things," he continued.
"And tells me that 'Stressing about it isn’t going to fix anything.'
"Which sure, I agree with that, but she’s not worried or preparing at all.
"She’s still going shopping and spending hundreds of money on clothes and fast food that we don’t need right now.
"Every time I bring up to her that we need to be a team and work together on the spending and saving, she gets upset with me and acts as though I just scolded her.
"Bottom line is, I seem to be the only person contributing to our future.
"She seems to just be like 'I’m having a kid. It's no biggy.'
"How am I supposed to get her to realize the reality of the situation?
"No matter what I say, if she doesn’t like hearing it, I’m being 'mean' or 'insensitive.'
"I'm mainly worried that I’ll end up as a single parent while in a relationship with the woman that gave birth to my child.
"I don’t know how else to get through to her. I’ve tried being patient, I’ve tried calmly talking to her, and I’ve tried tough love.
"But nothing I do seems to be working and she just isn’t on the same page with me anymore.
"I feel like talking to her about all of this is pointless and ultimately makes me worried for the future."
The majority of the comments agreed he was truly in a bind and offered their suggestions.
One person wrote: "Maybe you should try sitting down together and working out a budget.
"Show her how much you make, what you spend on bills, and how much you’re saving. And ask her to show you her financials as well."
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A second said: "Probably, what needs to happen is that the two of you need to be willing to compromise and work together more effectively.
"Couples counseling might actually help in this situation."
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