Things parents should NEVER say to their partners because it can damage the kids – including criticising their outfit

KIDS pick up more than we might think. They can hear things that we think are said quietly.

They can pick up anger and disagreements between partners, even if we are trying to hide them.

They will also feel safer and more secure if their parents are happy and are getting on well with each other.

The impact of our parent’s behaviour can be carried with us forevermore.

To help them grow into happy and secure adults, our kids need to understand and feel:

• Loved - unconditionally, no matter what.
• Secure - that we are there for them, to protect them when needed.
• Supported - to be the best version of themselves.
• Boundaries - to know what acceptable behaviour is and what is not.
• Growth - to continually develop to be even better.
• Trust – to be able to predict what we will do and feel safe.
• Communication – to be listened to and able to express their feelings.
• Connection – to feel an important part of a family.
• Commitment – parents are there for them.
• Fun – to be able to have fun together.

Think back on your childhood; did you feel loved and secure and if not, what were your parents saying or doing to make you feel like that?