Sexpert warns women about ‘painful’ problem that occurs when you stop having sex
A SEXPERT has revealed that going celibate or having a long spell without sex can end up being a problem for women.
Love guru Nadia Bokody, from Australia, claims that the “blue ball” effect doesn’t just happen to men when they go without climaxing, and women can suffer from “blue walls”.
In her latest column for , Nadia said: “As it turns out, blue walls isn’t just a comedic notion shared among sexually frustrated women; it’s science.
“The medical term for it is ‘vasoconstriction’ – which is the narrowing of blood vessels by small muscles in their walls.
“When we’re turned on, blood rushes to the tissues around our genitals, causing them to swell. If we don’t relieve that swelling, things can start to feel … uncomfortable.
“Men know this as blue balls, but for women – because it’s less recognised – that heavy, tender feeling that accompanies extended periods of sexual inactivity can be mistaken for menstrual cramps.
“People who get off regularly are also less likely to catch a cold or flu, according to research that found couples who had sex at least once a week had higher levels of salivary immunoglobulin A (IgA) than sexless couples.”
"When a woman is sexually stimulated, the blood vessels in the vagina do engorge. However, women tend to be less likely than men to become sexually aroused in the course of everyday activities.
"It’s widely recognised that women are more likely than men not to be bothered if they don’t have sex. Having regular sex can certainly improve your libido, but this is more likely to be related to the ‘feel good’ hormones that intimacy releases.
"There’s no doubt that after the menopause, you’re more likely to experience vaginal dryness. Like lack of sexual arousal, that can result in sex being uncomfortable. And that in turn can put you off sex, because you’re subconsciously worried about pain."
“You feel kind of full, like there’s a weight in your pelvis that needs to be released.”
So, how can you prevent “blue walls”?
According to Nadia, you should try and get intimate with your partner more frequently, or have more solo fun if you are single.
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