Climax at the same time as your partner with these great sex tips & toys
WANT to enjoy sex even more? Try reminding your fella that it’s a marathon, not a sprint.
A new study has revealed how long it takes women on average to reach orgasm – and it’s longer than most men might think.
While the average man takes just six minutes to climax, it takes women 13 mins and 41 secs.
And 68.6 per cent of women need some other form of action beside penetrative sex.
So how can you put the max in your climax? And what can your man do to help you along?
Here, sexpert KATE TAYLOR offers a guide to closing the orgasm time gap.
YOU-FIRST FOREPLAY: If your sex usually begins with an equal exchange of foreplay, get selfish.
Ensure all the preliminary warm-up stages are focused on you and your arousal, and let him catch up later.
Start your session with your favourite form of foreplay.
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STOP YOUR MIND WANDERING: It might sound a little hippy but practising mindfulness can take sex to the next level.
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Speed-it-up positions
FOR female orgasms, some positions work much better than others.
To ensure you reach the high notes together, choose a position that delivers direct stimulation to your erogenous zones such as your clitoris, G-spot and vulva, but doesn’t give your fella too much depth or control – or he will be finished before you have even started.
These are my pick of positions to get in sync.
WOMAN ON TOP, FACING FORWARDS: This is a great way to ensure that every part of you gets the attention it deserves.
Climb aboard your partner and sit up straight – that way, he will be rubbing up against the front wall of your nether regions, where the G-spot is rumoured to hide.
From here, your fella can also stroke the underside of your breasts and your nipples – the most sensitive areas for most women.
SPOONS: This isn’t the most hot-and-heavy position, but that’s what we want – because your partner’s pleasure will be slowed down in this sleepy session, while you can use your hands or a toy to build your own orgasm first.
Lie on your side with your back against your partner’s chest.
Bring your top leg back over his top leg, so you are fully exposed down under.
Now you are free to explore your most sensitive zones. When you feel your excitement reaching the point of no return, flip over into the doggy-style position so you can quickly climax together.
COITAL ALIGNMENT TECHNIQUE (CAT): This missionary move combines the intimacy of face-to-face sex with more direct stimulation for you.
Start in basic missionary, him between your legs, but then have your partner move himself four or five inches up the bed.
Then, instead of thrusting, he should rock his hips against you.
It might take a while to notice the difference, but you should soon feel much more direct pressure than usual.
This position also has the benefit of slowing down his excitement, giving you more time to catch up.
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