Run for the hills Jess, you don’t need Justin Timberlake – I’ve seen it all before and trust me, they NEVER change
JUSTIN Timberlake has publicly apologised to his wife Jessica Biel over a video of him holding hands with co-star Alisha Wainwright.
Posting to his Instagram, Justin declared "he drank too much" and "should have known better". He added that the incident was simply a "lapse in judgement". But are you really sure that’s the case Justin?
Apologising publicly and using the words "lapsed in judgement" screams to me that you’ve done something very bad. Are you really apologising to your wife - or are you saving face because you’ve been caught out?
Jessica, I don’t know you but what I do know is your husband doesn’t respect you. If he did, he wouldn’t be holding hands with another woman.
Sure, we all make mistakes, but Justin is gaslighting you when he says "nothing happened".
Something absolutely did happen. He was flirting behind your back. I wonder if you did the same to him, would you be publicly apologising or would he be filing for a divorce?
I have two words for you: red flag. Red flags, for those who don't know, have become a buzzword on the dating scene.
The Urban Dictionary describes a red flag as ";when somebody has a feeling that they are potentially dealing with a manipulative and/or possibly psychotic or sociopathic individual".
I know the type all too well and, reading Justin's open apology, it immediately reminded me of the 'red flag guys' I've sadly dated.
Apologising publicly screams to me that you’ve done something very bad. Are you really apologising to your wife - or are you saving face because you’ve been caught out?
Stina Sanders
Looking back, I am unsure why I found their toxic behaviour to be a surprise, as the red flags were always clear from the beginning.
Although admittedly I chose to ignore some of the signs, there were also red flags that were less obvious.
They were either cleverly disguised or made out to be ‘not a big deal’ by the person committing the crime.
Watching Justin knocking back the drinks reminded me of one guy I dated - who would smoke weed and drink himself into oblivion most nights.
Sleeping in until late and failing to commit to things we had planned, he would regularly let me down and it hurt.
If I was lucky, I would get a delayed apology but usually he would justify his behaviour as ‘having fun’. The truth is, he didn’t really care about me and just liked keeping me in his orbit.
I know the type all too well and, reading Justin's open apology, it immediately reminded me of the 'red flag guys' I've sadly dated
Stina Sanders
Another concealed red flag, that I’ve experienced one too many times, is when a person can't communicate or handle a disagreement.
During arguments with some of my exes, the blame would usually land on me or they would shut down - denying and refusing to take responsibility.
This would usually end with me in tears because I felt my point hadn’t been heard. Fighting to save a doomed relationship that was a one-sided war that could never be won.
Despite the red flags being hard to see at first, I think my intuition always knew that something wasn’t quite right.
Their actions fuelled my insecurity and resulted in me behaving in a way I wouldn't usually.
I wish now I had watched that person's actions, rather than listen to the words I wanted to hear.
Because when it comes to spotting a red flag, my gut has always been right.
When it comes to spotting a red flag, my gut has always been right
Stina Sanders
When I voiced concerns one boyfriend wasn't being faithful, he told me it was all in my head.
I didn't have any proof, but deep down I knew things weren't adding up.
His behaviour had become inconsistent and he would get jealous over the smallest things.
I questioned why he was acting shady and he continued to deny and gaslight me, until one day I decided to look on his phone.
I read his Whatsapp messages and discovered that I had been right all along. He had been sleeping with the whole of London.
Humiliated and distraught, I wish I had trusted my gut sooner. I wasted months with the wrong person when I could have been with the right one.
Someone who treated me nicely, looked after and cared for me. Wanted the best for me. Be my friend as well as lover. That person wasn't and will never be him.
To Jessica, and to anyone who is going through a situation where their gut is telling them ‘uh-oh’, please listen to it.
A good relationship is when someone demonstrates that they care about making you happy.
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When you're with or without them, they continue making you feel happy and emotionally stable. If their actions are not doing that then, trust me on this, you need to run for the hills.
Yesterday we reported on a cheating bloke who got TWO other women pregnant – and even cheated while his girlfriend was in labour.