I want to axe wedding after fiance cheated but he may get back on drugs
DEAR DEIDRE: I’M getting married in January but my fiance has cheated and hurt me so much that I don’t want to marry him now.
We’ve been together for four years and he’s the dad of our two-year-old son. I also have a six-year-old daughter from an earlier relationship.
This wedding has cost more than £20,000, mostly paid by my parents and me. The thing is my fiance keeps cheating. He’s never admitted it, but he’s not very bright and leaves clues.
Last week I found WhatsApp messages on his phone with photos of another girl’s breasts. He tried to say he’d downloaded them off a website.
I don’t know which is worse, the fact that he cheats or that he thinks I am stupid enough to be fooled by his pathetic lies.
I wish I could leave but the wedding’s all booked plus I would make myself homeless and be in debt if we did split.
He used to do drugs and I’m scared he’ll get drugged up again if I leave, as he couldn’t cope.
His family say he’d kill himself if I wasn’t there to look after him. I’m 29 and he’s 33.
Popular Dear Deidre problems
DEIDRE SAYS: Cancel the wedding, whatever the cost. Even if you will lose all the money you’ve paid, walking away from him now will be cheap at the price.
Don’t make yourself and your children homeless. See a solicitor or consult Citizens Advice (). Contact National Debtline () for free advice about debt.
He’s been lying and cheating on you and that was his choice. If he goes back on drugs then that’s his choice too. Don’t let his family put you on a guilt trip. He’s an adult. Save the one adult life you can, that’s your own, together with your children’s.
READ TODAY'S DEAR DEIDRE When I have a drink I can't stop until I pass out or run out of booze
READ DEIDRE'S PHOTO CASEBOOK Kelly and Jade can't face each other after lesbian sex in threesome
Get in touch with Deidre today
Got a problem? Send an email to [email protected]. Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.
You can also send a private message on the Facebook page.
Follow me on Twitter