My boyfriend wants me to leave my younger brothers living alone with my alcoholic mum

DEAR DEIDRE: MY boyfriend wants me to move in with him and his mum but how can I leave my little brothers at home?

I’m a girl of 18, my boyfriend is 20 and we’ve been together for a year.

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Mum is 40, with a drink problem. She relies on me to get my two brothers to school if she’s had a heavy night.

My dad left home three years ago because of her drinking. We don’t see him any more.

My boyfriend thinks I don’t love him but it’s not that, it’s just that I can’t leave my brothers alone with my mum.

They’re nine and seven and they’ll end up in care.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Only your mum can decide to change but you can encourage her by explaining how worried you are.

My e-leaflet Drink Problem  tells  where  she  can get help.

If she doesn’t sort herself out, then finding your father may be the only solution.

The boys are in fact his responsibility. You should feel free to lead your life.

For understanding support contact Nacoa, the National Association for Children of Alcoholics (, 0800 358 3456).

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