Lover has shunned me for sex toys after taking a liking to porn
DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife has started watching porn on her own as she has a thing for well-endowed men.
She has also bought some large sex toys recently.
I have a below-average size penis so I understand she wants something larger.
I’m 35 and my wife’s 33.
She seems to have gone off having sex with me since she’s been using these toys and has commented on my size.
I want her to be satisfied but as a man I am finding it a bit humiliating.
I just don’t know what to do.
DEIDRE SAYS: Size is not essential to satisfy a woman sexually.
Your wife is finding the pornography and sex toys a turn-on but at the cost of hurting your feelings and damaging your marriage.
It sounds as though it’s also having a desensitising effect.
Tell her that you want her to stop using them while you explore what pleasure and satisfaction you can give one another in other ways.
Truly, there are lots.
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