DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN only get an erection after drinking a few cans of lager. I have never managed it sober with my new girlfriend.
I’m 36 and she is 34. We only got together a few weeks ago, after me and my wife split up three months back.
When my marriage broke down, I was devastated. But my wife found someone new and told me to do the same.
Although I felt it was too soon, I met someone at my local gym.
I’m trying to be a good father to my two daughters and see them regularly.
But my ex is playing mind games with me. One day she wants to be friends and the next she tells me I can’t see the kids.
I’m so stressed and down about it.
My girlfriend thinks I am not attracted to her, when that’s simply not true.
DEIDRE SAYS: Drinking a lot affects your ability to have an erection, and long-term heavy drinking has long-term health effects, so cut down.
Your wife sounds like she is deliberately shattering your peace of mind.
Get advice from Families Need Fathers (fnf.org.uk, 0300 0300 363).
Anxiety blocks sexual responses and creates a vicious cycle.
You fear it, so it happens again. But it is fixable. My support pack Solving Erection Problems explains self-help.
Often the best way to sort this is to agree not to have sex for a few days, then the erections return naturally.
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