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I can’t get over my ex-girlfriend’s comments about my penis size

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DEAR DEIDRE: AN ex-girlfriend told me my penis was so small she needed a magnifying glass to find it.

Her hurtful words have stayed with me, and now I’m struggling with my confidence in bed.

I’m a 27-year-old single guy.

I was with my ex, 25, for a year. She always made me feel I wasn’t good enough for her.

Our sex life was problematic, and the more I worried I wasn't satisfying her, the worse it got. Sometimes, I struggled to get an erection.

We argued a lot and she was often mean - putting me down and insulting my appearance, like saying I needed to work out more.

But when she mocked the size of my penis, it cut deep. 

We split a few months ago. Since then, I’ve been on dating sites, then chickened out of arranging dates.

I have no problem attracting women - people say I’m good-looking and a nice guy - but I’m anxious about having another relationship.

My ex’s words keep ringing in my ears and I’m worried a new girlfriend will laugh at my penis or that I won’t be able to perform.

I feel so insecure and don’t know how to overcome this. 

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DEIDRE SAYS: Being teased about your sexual prowess can have a lasting impact on confidence.

However, being a good lover has little to do with the size of your penis - which I would wager is perfectly normal.

Your cruel ex simply picked on the thing most likely to hurt a man.

Good sex is about good communication, listening and being considerate.

And most women reach orgasm through stimulation of the clitoris - manually or orally - rather than through intercourse alone. 

Read my support packs, Penis Size and Raising Self-Esteem for more support.

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