WON'T LET IT GO
Girlfriend caught me pleasuring myself in the bathroom and hit the roof
I am not a selfish lover and I am able to satisfy her in other ways
DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my girlfriend came home and caught me pleasuring myself in the bathroom, she hit the roof.
I think she was overreacting but she won’t let it go.
I am 24 and she is 22. We have been together for almost eight months and get on really well, apart from when it comes to sex.
My girlfriend says my penis is too big and sex hurts.
When I first get together with a woman I am self-conscious as I am a little over average and can’t predict how they are going to react.
However I am not a selfish lover and I am able to satisfy her in other ways.
But the problem is I get nothing in return, which makes me feel miserable and unwanted.
She went mad when she caught me pleasuring myself but if she can’t have full sex with me what am I supposed to do?
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DEIDRE SAYS: Virtually all men and most women masturbate sometimes.
It is a pleasurable way to relax and satisfy yourself – you are doing nothing wrong.
If your girlfriend is willing for you to satisfy her, she should be willing to reciprocate.
A woman’s vagina can usually expand to accommodate a large penis, but the problem may be that your girlfriend is not fully aroused before sex.
Her anxiety about the pain won’t help.
My support pack Manhood Too Large explains ways to help.
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