I learned the hard way that escorts are not a quick fix to loneliness

DEAR DEIDRE: I STARTED to see escorts to break the cycle of my loneliness, but you made me understand that this wasn’t helping me emotionally and would be draining me financially too.

I’m a single man of 29 and I live with my gran.

I’d love a relationship with somebody.

I have an unfulfilling job in a factory, which gives me enough money to pay some bills for Gran but I don’t have much money left over.

I saved up enough to hire an escort.

We had a lovely evening.

We had sex in a motel and cuddled after.

I wrote to ask you how I would go about seeing her again.

You made me see that this person was only doing this job for money and it would not lead to anything.

I took your advice and I am now networking with friends to help me find somebody special for a relationship.

It’s a slow process but I’m enjoying it and no longer feel so alone.

DEIDRE SAYS: It’s good that you are building a social life outside of work.

Using escorts will not have helped your situation, while also making you feel low that you are resorting to payment for company.

With a little more persuasion, you were able to see that going out with friends could be a way of meeting people naturally and it would certainly be cheaper to socialise rather than hiring escorts.