I identify as a lesbian but now I’m falling for my male personal trainer

DEAR DEIDRE: UNTIL recently I had always identified as a lesbian, but now I’m finding myself falling for my male personal trainer, and I can’t quite wrap my head around it.

I’m 26, and since I was a young teen, I was always certain of my attraction to women. 

Men had never interested me, and so I never found myself questioning my sexuality.

That was until I joined a new gym and met my personal trainer. He was tall, muscular, and manly - the complete opposite of what I usually go for.

At first I didn’t know what I was feeling, but as I continued to spend time with him, I found myself ogling him more and more.

While I’d never found myself attracted to a man before, suddenly I started to feel a burning desire deep inside.

Now I’m struggling to get the thought of him out of my head, and I can't make sense of where these feelings have come from.

Every time we have a session, I’m practically skipping into the gym because I’m excited to see him. 

I feel so confused. 

DEIDRE SAYS: For a lot of people, sexuality can be very fluid, and it’s not uncommon for it to change over time.