I haven’t been able to live with myself after drunkenly cheating on my fiancé and have lost all my appetite

DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER cheating on my fiancé on a drunken night out, my appetite has completely disappeared.

The idea of him finding out and breaking up with me is keeping me up at night, and I don’t know how to cope.

I’m 32, my partner is 34, and we’ve been together for four years.

It’s fair to say he’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me, and never in my life would I have ever imagined doing something like this to him.

However, I barely ever drink, and on a rare girls’ night out, things got out of hand, and I kissed another man.

Since then it’s been haunting me, and I haven’t been able to live with myself.

I can’t eat or sleep, and as a result, I’ve lost a significant amount of weight.

I know I’m making myself unwell, but the reality of losing him is too much to bear.

How could I do this to him?

DEIDRE SAYS: While cheating is wrong, I hear from many people who have done something on the spur of the moment that they’ve regretted later.

Try not to beat yourself up. We all make mistakes and what’s important is that you learn from the experience.

Try to set your guilt to one side and decide whether there is a realistic chance your boyfriend will find out.

If not, you need to be kinder to yourself and put your efforts back into your relationship again.

My support pack, Feeling Guilty, will help you navigate these emotions.